i need help, badly?

Question

look, im living with my druged up mother and all her friends r on heaps of drugs and she screams at me and she smashed my mouth on a sink coz i couldnt turn on tap wen i was 10, btw im almost 14, my dad is trying 2 get me 2 live with him and now im emo and i told him and he doesnt really respect me how i am like he stoped me looking up emo stuff on computer by putting K9 protection on and i cant play imvu wich helps me, and i donno wot 2 do, oh yeah im really unhappy at my school so yeah

Answer 1

i think u need to move out from your mother...no one deserves to be trated lyk this. try living with dad..it will probably be a lot better. But before you do any of this you need to talk to someone u trust...another relative? school consellor?talk your problems out with someone you trust.

Answer 2

This is a very touchy situation. But living with your mother is not the best place for you. Drugs really changes people and make it hard for people around them. It sounds like your dad just wants the best for you. Maybe your dad is a little over protected but at least it sounds like he just wants the best for you and your safety. And once you get away from your druged mother your life will be more happy at home with your dad and at school. Also when you grow older you will see your dad just really loves you and just wants a better life for you. Yes it is hard to see this now but you will!!!

Answer 3

What a tough situation you are in. Parents, like your Dad, often have a hard time dealing with their children, when they dress, act, whatever differently to what they think you should be like. They often jump to the conclusion, mostly because of the media, that you're in some kind of cult, and your going to commit suicide some time soon, without realising that it's an outlet for your fears, and a way of dealing with all the bullsh#t that life is throwing at you.

In order to leave the terrible situation with your Mum, which I just think you just have to, maybe you just have to "tone it down" with your Dad. I think you have to realise that pretending to be someone else, and dressing and acting how you "should" be isn't what I'm saying, I just mean pretend on the outside, that you're the person that maybe your Dad is more comfortable with, and over time, reveal yourself to him. I know it sounds fake etc, and everyone should be free to be who they are, but you need to leave your Mum, and be in a healthy environment so that you can get on with your life, and if you just have to "straighten up" like the oldies say, just for a bit, to get out, I think it's worth it.

Im sure this situation is affecting all parts of your life, once you get this sorted, everything will fall into place, I know it sounds cliched...

Unless there's some where else you can go...?

All the best, Alice x

Answer 4

Hi there sweetheart. Firstly, you have to call childline - http://www.childline.org.uk/ - because what you are suffering is child abuse. You should definitely not remain with your mother, and it sounds like you have a caring father who wants to look after you. The emo thing I also understand, although i'm not emo myself (I'm a dj on the indie electro scene in central london), my mother used to lock me in my room, burn all my belongings, search me when I came in the house for any tapes or cds or magazines, and she chucked me out in the street making me homeless plenty of times. I was also an outcast at school because of my weird music tastes, so I understand why you feel your music is so important to you. However, music is not more important than not being abused. This may sound like I don't understand, but when you're grown up, you'll have valued the love and care your dad is showing you, regardless of his aversion to your tastes. I think maybe you should sit your dad down and ask him what he thinks would do you more harm, living with your abusive mother, or listening to a bit of angsty music?

Once you call childline, I honestly think life will start to get alot better for you. Let us know how you get on. Good luckxx

Answer 5

You need counseling. Go live with you dad, and ask him to take you to a therapist. The reason why you are turning to all of this is because you have be abused and neglected by your mother. You dad has the right idea, and he will give you the love and attention that you need. You will be surprised how much happier you will be.

Answer 6

i will pray for u ...
and get out of that hell place soon
good luck