My borther is currently 22 years old, and he's unemployment. He had a several jobs, but it never lasted for long. He either quit or for some other reason. He doesn't live with my family anymore and move out at 18 since my dad and him doesn't get along...my dad is his step dad. Now he's living on his own and still don't want to get a job. Even though he doesn't live in our hosue anymore, he still comes for help and finacial support. My parents searches job for him, and he said that he'll take it but when it comes to that day, he bail out. He just doesn't want to work and going to parties. How can I help him get things straight? I'm his younger sister who's 18. My parents..actually my mom and I since my dad doesn't care anymore, can't competly ingore him and wait till he finally changes, or else he'll get deeper into the mud and it'll be harder to pull him out. Now that's only one situation that I'll mention.
2007-06-14 21:27:42 · 3 answers · asked by ceec 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he is 22. he needs to stop and think about the way he is living his life. sry to say hon. but there really much you can help him out, as much as you want. you can talk to him about it day and night and help him look for a job, but nothing will work unless he actually puts forth some sort of effort. for one, partying isn't going to get him anywhere... and relaying on your parents for everything really doesn't help him much in the future either. he just needs to figure things out on his own.. come to his senses. he has to realize he isn't a kid, but a 22 year-old adult. Its hard growing up, but we all face it one day. and his time has come. the best thing to do is to just pray that God will help him through this. = )
2007-06-14 21:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lost without you 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He needs someone to let him fall. Don't try to pull him out, because he will never learn to grow up. He is just plain lazy. He needs a good kick in the butt. You and your mother are being enablers. You are allowing him not to have to take responsibility for himself. That is wrong. What happens when no one is there to help him. He will not have learned the skills needed to take care of himself!! You are cheating him out of the opportunity to grow up. How will he ever care for a family, if he can't take care of himself?
2007-06-14 21:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
pray for him.
2007-06-14 21:35:54 · answer #3 · answered by Sunny Day 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋