To all you gents out there: What are you looking for in "The One?" Good Looks, Personality, Intelligence, Matronly Attitude? Is beauty the primary characteristic you are interested in your ideal woman??
2007-06-14 19:31:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am male [sorry for stereotyping us, guys] and therefore, of course, looks are a factor. However, I have known and had opportunity to get to intimately know some drop dead gorgeous babes--we're talking Hawaiian Tropic models here. I didn't bother cause they were so annoyingly stupid and air-headed that I could not stand to be around them for very long.
But, I guess you mean for serious, marriage-type purposes. So, to be around them they HAVE to have an above average intellect. But, to get really close to them, physical close, they have to be at least somewhat physically attractive as well. Guess there's a minimum requirement for both aspects, but I will admit that personally the intelligence is a higher priority. I'm a geek, I want to be able to hold a conversation and not have to repeat or explain what I am talking about.
Edit after reading another answer:
Not just "like" every five minutes, "you know" over and over again is also very aggravating.
like, you know :P
2007-06-14 20:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by quntmphys238 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a combination of pretty much everything. The first thing anyone notices in another person is attractiveness. But its certainly not the only way to get someone's attention.
The biggest thing for me if I am meeting a girl is conversation. That is how you can tell how social, open, funny, and caring she is. And how intelligent she is. That is a big one. If a girl cant hold an intelligent conversation with me then no thanks.
Can she take a joke? Princesses are bad and girls who take everything way too serious are bad. Be proud of who you are but also be able to laugh at yourself.
As far as what guys look for in "the one," that comes long after you meet them. First and foremost they are looking for a date, then if that goes well a relationship, if things are still great down the line they might start thinking about you as "the one." Its not something to go out and look for right off the bat.
2007-06-14 19:39:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the greatest debates of all time. I know for me looks are definitely not the biggest thing to look for when considering a girl for being "the one". I want the girl to be attractive to me. My definition of attractive is different than what you may be thinking. I do not want a girl that I am with to be a supermodel, or even close to that. I just want her to look good to me. I don't know how to explain what that means.
I find that an intelligent woman, with a great personality, who is average on the looks; is much more attractive to me than a woman who is super hot, but has the IQ of a toaster oven, and says "like" every 5 minutes. That would be a huge turn off.
I may not represent the majority of the male population, but this is how I feel about it.
2007-06-14 19:48:28 · answer #3 · answered by james_walker004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For me, its the good looks that attracks me first, but i believe in the saying that "Do not judge the book by its cover". The content is more important than the cover, so i go for intelligence and personality. But if I cound find a book with a good cover and an exellent content that would be better.
2007-06-14 20:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by dats p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on whether a man is looking for a one-night stand or a life-time commitment. Looks don't last forever but intelligence and personality will go on.
2007-06-14 19:36:36 · answer #5 · answered by judgebill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not primary, but it's as important as anything else. We're not reproducing with someone we can't stand to look at, after all.
2007-06-14 19:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say personality, it just goes so much farther. But when someone has a really nice, golden personality, it just makes them look that much better to me anyway.
2007-06-14 19:36:50 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Gosh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look offcourse is considered more important but sometimes behaviour,and personality.how nice is she she should look innocent.there are some girls who are not so good looking but their attitude is very goood and nice.either quiet or talkative always helping others and who does good house work, i like such girls
2007-06-14 19:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by pirsa363 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i prefer to have personality and intelligence but beauty helps... i WILL NOT DATE A BIMBO
2007-06-14 19:47:21 · answer #9 · answered by skitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the whole package, babe. dont forget money. money is good too.
2007-06-14 19:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by lsl4x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋