why can't my dad trust me?

Question

I'm going to my friend birthday party this weekend and it's celebrate at the beach. I'm just going to go there in the afternoon till around 7pm. I asked him earlier and he said yes, now a few days later he change his mind and said "No, I won't let you go." What! He said that who on earth would have their birthday at the beach...and plus it's too dangerous. We had an argument about this....when ever I try to tell him that I'll be find and that he needs to trust me...yet he wouldn't let me go. What should I do? I'm almost 19 already.

I mean in the afternoon and get home around 7pm.

Answer 1

You're dad doesn't mean any harm, but this can cause a social strain in your life, because I know my mom let us have very few friends, we were very limited to going places. I understood but hated the fact that I couldn't date, hangout, or anything. Plus I had a shady brother that told mom everything I did at school to make me look bad, even my first secret mistress. Later I realized some of the kids were bad so it helped a little bit but still that was wrong.When I got 16 my social skills were horrible. I've gotten a whole lot better at communicating with people now (18 ),but I still need to work my relationships. I really don't know what you can do, but wait to move out. I mean you're in his roof, so you really have no choice. Just I like I had no choice.

Answer 2

Unfortunately he trusts you just not the dangers around you, 18 yr olds at a party, maybe drinking maybe not, bikins, guys with shorts and no underwear on, a drunk teen goes in the water and drowns......are just some of the things hes worried about. Doesnt sound right, doesnt sound fair cause tech in America you are legally an adult so i would do this, explain to him you'll go for not the whole party, that youll take your cell and call and check in or you just wont stay till dark, throughout options and compromise, he does it cause he cares..........

Answer 3

If you are 19, then you have the right to leave home and start doing anything that you want to do. As long as you live in your dad's home, however, he makes the rules. It is unfortunate that he will not let you go. I don't think it has anything to do with not trusting you. I think that he does not trust guys around you, because he is afraid that they will take advantage of you. He wants you to have a good life ahead of you.

Answer 4

If you are 18 then you are an adult. Why are you asking permission? You are a free adult old enough to live on your own legally.
You dont ASK if you can go you TELL him your going and you respectfully say what time youll be home, then if you arent home by that time you call out of respect, not obligation and say youll be late.
As long as you act like a child he will treat you like one. Start living now, youre fully grown.

Answer 5

If you are almost 19 years old then you don't have to deal with it too much longer. But I think that Dad is being protective not mean.

Answer 6

its not the matter of trust or anything else dear. u r just 19 and it doesnt mean that u know wat is rite and wats wrong?
parents never shun ur wishes. remember they r just protective abt u . why r u so concerned abt the party dear. remember one thing the only relationship which can stay forever is between a child and her/his parents. so dont misunderstand ur parents. i hope ur parents never stopped u from going along with ur friends. when this is the matter dont misunderstand them but accept their decision and b normal with ur dearones.

Answer 7

my dad is the same way. our parents are really protective, but think about it, its only cause they really care- i noe you prob. dont want to hear about all this, but its true. To build his trust, you should prob. act very responsible around him. Remember he is only like this for your own good. My dad always tells me "Its your car, im only here to teach you how to drive it"- refering to life in general. Dont worry, things will ease down.