Question for girls (about approaching girls)?

Question

So I'm kind of a shy guy and I've been reading some answers on here about how guys should approach girls and getting some good stuff. But one thing kind of strikes me as odd in some peoples responses. People say to just go up to a girl and say, "That's a nice dress you're wearing", or "You look great in those shoes." I thought about saying that to a girl I saw on the train today and I thought for a second and it just really seemed like I'd come off gay or something commenting to a girl like that. It's not really a conversation starter, at least I don't see it as one, and even if it did start a conversation, how do you talk about fashion or something like that... I don't know, I guess my question is, ladies, if a guy came up to you and said you look great in that dress (whether it's on the street randomly or a co-worker/classmate), how does that guy come off sounding? Would you see it as queer? If it doesn't sound gay, where does the conversation go from there?

Answer 1

I personally would feel a little weird about a guy coming up to me on the street randomly and saying that, not because I think it's gay but because it doesn't sound like a natural conversation starter with someone you don't know, so I don't think the conversation would go anywhere. If it were from a co-worker, I still wouldn't think it was gay, just a nice compliment and a demonstration that guys do have good observation skills and would probably start explaining where I got it, why I bought it, which could easily turn into a decent conversation because everyone has to buy clothes at some point.

Answer 2

I might be a bit scared that you are being too aggressive in talking to a complete stranger with a line like that - wondering if your motives are good or if you're just out to hook up. If you're looking to hook up - those girls could be impressed and you might get somewhere. If you're looking for love - you're barking up the wrong tree with this approach. Everyday - I read about women getting attacked by total strangers and I was once attacked by a total stranger who convinced me he was a nice guy - I mean think of this from a woman's perspective. Nope - a good approach is to have something in common to start with such as taking a class, or joining a club. Then, you can say something intelligent - for instance if you're in a bike club - you can say "hey - how often do you ride outside of the club?" and get a conversation going where there is some substence and sense behind what you're saying so it doesn't sound like you're looking for your next hook up or might be a date rapist kind of guy.

Answer 3

it definately doesn't sound queer! If you are being genuine, then it is a real compliment, and congratulations, you may have just made her day! A good follow up would be to introduce yourself and then let her take the lead from there. You could ask questions about hobbies, (complimenting a hobby or something unique works better than something about shoes or a dress, by the way) and then if it goes well, ask for her phone number. Wait a while, about a day to a week, call, and set up a date or just talk. Good Luck!

Answer 4

I think it would be better to say something like 'you look really pretty' instead of 'I LOVE your shoes', because that can come off as a little gay.

Answer 5

I would take it as a compliment. And if you followed it up with something like, "Oh God, did that sound gay?" I'd think you were not only nice but very funny. If I were available, I'd be interested in talking to you at that point to see where it might lead. By the way, women like shy men. And unless they are Paris Hilton types, women are not as concerned with classic good looks as men think we are. We are interested in men we have chemistry with. And that chemistry does not often coincide with what society perceives as good looks. I have rarely been attracted to a guy who's hair is perfect - it seems a bit too feminine when the guy has a nicer hairdo than mine. But "women go crazy for a sharp dressed man." (Old 60's/70's song)

Answer 6

you soundlike my bf...lol
ok, just go up to someone and compliment them, or ask them about the game last night and if they saw it, or there opinion on the news headlines. Just dont let the conversation end unless the girl is really looking like she feels awkward.
As for the dress thing, im pretty nice (as are many girls) and i get how hard it is for guys to be expected to make the first move. So to that comment I would probebly laugh and say something back...but not think gay...
Give it a try!

Answer 7

Maybe you need to worry less about what people are going to think about you. That is a huge inhibitor.

If a guy came up to me, flapped his wrist and lisped, "Girlfriend, I just love your dress!" then yeah, I'd probably think he was a gay man.

Complimenting a woman is not "gay"; we're not going to assume that because you like our dress or shoes that you want to wear them to your next visit to a gay bar. We will likely be delighted!

As far as where does the conversation go from there - that's really going to depend on the situation. She will likely thank you for the compliment, and smile. Maybe ask if she's from around there, ask if she can recommend a good place for coffee or something, or whatever. Then ask her to join you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

There's a difference between saying, 'You look great in that dress" and saying "That's a nice dress you're wearing."
Personally I would appreciate the second one because it's a little less... well it's less likely to be misconstrued as perverted.
If you're a cute guy then even just saying Hi with a smile will do it for her. Just start with that, ask her how her day's going.. it's not too difficult.

Answer 9

Here are tips on How to Get A Girlfriend https://bitly.im/aL9Oc Whether in high school, college, or out of college, when you know what to say and how to say it and how to act to make girls interested in dating you, life becomes a lot easier. It's not even about your looks either. I've seen attractive guys have a hard time getting a girl while an average guy gets a bunch of girls. You just got to know the tricks. Have fun.

Best way to eat out a girl https://bitly.im/aL9Oc

Answer 10

Well,for one,It definitely depends on the tone you use. You know the difference in the tone of voice if your trying to impress someone or messing around with your friends,we all do.But if simply a guy walked up to me and said that,being the open book type of person I am I would take it as a complement.Don't be afraid to approach girls,its not as scary as you think.I mean really whats the worst that could happen? When you try to talk to a girl,have a good self esteem!