Ok there was a huge drama with my family and by boyfriend and we have both told each other that we still love each other but i hurt him by going on my family's side at the time but now i really would go against my own family just to get the man of my life back and we were together for 2 years and i need some words of wisdom to tell him im sorry and i would go to the moon and back for him if only i could have another chance to show him how much i really do care for him and love him?? PLEASE HELP!
2007-06-14 17:44:29 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him that since you've had some time alone, it has given you a chance to reflect on what's happened and since you've had time to think, even though family is important that he holds a high importance in your life as well. Tell him that at the time you were acting on your emotions in the moment and that you have made a mistake and realize that you do have your own mind and that you don't always have to back up what your family wants. If he loves you and cares about you he should understand. We have all made mistakes and regretted things we have done and said before. Good luck!
2007-06-14 17:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by kitkat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question. Your heart was speaking. Pay attention to what you wrote in your question, and use it to speak to him. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Let him know that if he's willing to give you one more chance, he'll see immediately that you aren't just saying this, you that will SHOW him.
On the other hand, before you go through with this, make CERTAIN you're making the right choice. Family is forever. Boyfriends may come and go, but family is supposed to be there for you if it all falls apart. Hopefully it won't, but just be sure it's worth it in the end.
Take a few moments to yourself first, to be certain you aren't too close to the situation . Talk to a friend who can act non-biased before making the next move.
Hope this helps. Take care of yourself.
2007-06-14 18:15:39 · answer #2 · answered by Jen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family will be there for your life.
Your boyfriend is just a passing thing.
If you really feel that he's more important than your family. You need to ask yourself a few questions.
Why is he more important than your family? Wouldn't you rather be with someone that appreciates them?
Why did you get in the position of your family not liking him?
Did you just dump too much stuff on their doorstep?
See you can forgive, but parents never do when it comes to their daughters. So you won't have peace there. Can you live with that?
Look ahead to the next 5 years. Are you going anywheres with him? Or are you just caught up in all the romance?
If you really NEED to have him back.
Apologize. If he doesn't take you back, he wasn't there to begin with and he's just controlling you
2007-06-14 17:51:46 · answer #3 · answered by Milmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you betrayed his trust in you; that you would stand by him in tough times. Why did you and your family turn on him, that would be helpful to know. Did he cheat or lie or steal or commit an unforgivable crime? You need to be very patient with him because trust doesn't come back easily. An apology would be nice. The ball is in his court now. On the other hand, he shouldn't make you grovel or play games with you. Both of you have to work at it and you and your family need to have a talk about what happened and how you feel about it.
2007-06-14 17:59:54 · answer #4 · answered by gma 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly from my piont of few
2 years aint that much i dated a girl 3 1/2 years
and we ended up break up and i thought she was the one
but nvm
just tell him exactly waht you wrote
theres no way you can show that youd go to the moon for him besides actually going to the moon
hes going to have to trust and believe waht you say
besides that its all on trust hope and faith
good luck on that by the way
2007-06-14 17:49:30 · answer #5 · answered by hopeless_romantic33z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry Kay, i totally feel ur pain, but yea if you love him and are willing to be with him through the good times and the bad times, then yea u should try and get ack together with him, tell him exactly how u feel, u sound real sincere and heck just tell him what u said in your question. if he loves you like you love him then he'll be yours again :)
2007-06-14 17:49:03 · answer #6 · answered by biggy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when u make decisions you should think twice. once u thought to stay with the family, now again u want to go to yo boyfriend, what if again u feel like going to yo family. u have to make steady decisions. are u sure that yo boyfriend is still willing to take u back? i don't think, it is very risky to live with u kind of people. i am sorry if i hurt u in anyway. pl think twice. i think better forget him and don't make such mistakes again.
2007-06-14 17:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by ish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your willing to go against your blood family over him? he must mean the fukkin world. thatz kinda messed up. I would never put anybody,anything in front of my mother. AT ALL. No man is worth it. Thatz the person who gave you birth. He can leave you anytime. Your momz cant. but itz up 2 u
2007-06-14 17:48:36 · answer #8 · answered by wick_city_boii 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the love is there, it's there and no arguement will change that. All you need to do is talk to him and tell him how you feel. If you feel that you owe him an apology than give him one but the rest will work itself out.
2007-06-14 17:48:31 · answer #9 · answered by hthr_1974 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him upp and talk to him.. dont hold back and just tell him everything.. sometimes sorry isnt enough you know.. i guess he must be feeling like you betrayed him. but once you talk to him.. explain the whole situation to him and make him realize that he is as importent to you as your family. guess it must be tough for you to keep everyone happy but talking will be the only way to solve this one. wish you all tha best.
peace
2007-06-14 17:52:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋