i have 2 gurls he has no rights with my youngest i found that out but my eldest is wut i am worried about he dont support them in ANY kind of way then whats to see them for a weekend but when i let them go he never stays with them he leaves them with his mom. I dont want them with no one out of his moms side of the family without me around or in the same town. I really cant go to court at the moment is there anything else i can do. ive been with my girls 24 7 every day of thier lives. i do everything for them when he dont do anything.
2007-06-14 17:03:40 · 10 answers · asked by Shea Shea 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It is possible that it is his mom that wants to see the kids in the first place.
Is there a reason she should not be allowed to see her grandchildren? If not, then I would suggest talking to her, and seeing if you could work out some visitations between the two of you.
Also, it sounds like the visits are kind of off and on.
What I would do in your situation is tell him no overnights until he can be the stable parent the children need.
Sporadically taking them for extended periods just every now and then just confuses them, not to mention, the probably miss you, since they are with you most of the time.
If the no over nights thing doesn't work well, then just plan for one day a week when you will take your girls to a park for a few hours. Tell him he is welcome to come see them then if he wants.
It really sounds like he needs to straighten up and realize what a gift his little girls really are.
2007-06-14 17:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Ayawi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know what u are going threw i have the same problem with my bab daddy he has not seen her in 3 1/2 years she is 4 now i asked a xop and they told me if i wannahave 100%costudy i have to go to court an file for full cusidy and ask for no vist righ tell them what u think is going on i hope eveything will go good for u because its hard being sing mother working and trying to take good care of ur kid
2007-06-15 00:15:01 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll694617192002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not going to like this answer.
Unfortunately, if you don't go to court and tell the court why he shouldn't be permitted to see them (sounds like he isn't paying child support, and the courts can force him to do that too), you're not going to have any way to enforce your desires here, no matter how well founded they may be.
I wish you the best of luck.
2007-06-15 00:09:38 · answer #3 · answered by G A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well tough question and veries by the situtation if his name is on the birth certificate and the is nothing on record you cannot keep him away from the kids. if there is a support order on file and he has not been paying then he is not allowed visitation(at least here in ohio) it sound more like his mother wants to see the children not him. if i were you i would work something out with her. she is just a bystander that wants to see her grandchildren
2007-06-15 00:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by adiemas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well with the youngest you could tell him he cant see her because he has no rights to her until he takes you to court for that but with the older one there really isnt much to do ... try to contact a lawyer and ask their opinion, but you can go to job and family services and it wont cost you anything to take him back to court
2007-06-15 00:13:09 · answer #5 · answered by kac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he has visitation rights then there isn't much you can do besides go to court. Your only other option would only be if the girls are being abused, then you could report him to CPS.
2007-06-15 00:08:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he does not pay court ordered child support, then he has no rights. However, if he does, then there isn't much u can do unless you protest in court.
2007-06-15 00:14:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, your only option is to go back to court...only the judge can determine if the jerks rights will be provoked. Hang in there, and good luck.
2007-06-15 00:10:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need to go to court weather you want to or not
2007-06-19 04:45:51 · answer #9 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do your children think should be done
2007-06-15 00:07:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋