My Fi is a few years old then me. By the time we get married and have kids, he will be close to 35. This worries me. I have nothing against those who are older parents. But, for myself, I don't like the idea. I mean, when my kids are 15, my hubby will be 50.
Should I be worried? I just think there is a certain charm and positive attitude about young dads. They are more willing to run around outside with the kids, then older parents. More likely volunteer and be involved.
When you think about it. Older parents have the potential for health problems. I think of my own dad, he had cancer at 53. Of course, I was in my 20's. But, I could not imagine having children in high school, with sick parents. I know, a parent can get sick at anytime. But, older parents may have a higher risk.
Are my worries valid or am I being crazy? Should I be this concerned with age. I would love for my Fi and I to have kids now. He's 30.
2007-06-14 16:56:25 · 5 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
My mom had me when she was 31. She wished she would have started earlier. Like 26/27.
2007-06-14 16:59:50 · update #1
i'm 34 with a son that's 14 and my second one is a year old, I must say I dont have the energy I did at 20. I know I'm not old but I agree (most) older parents just don't have the energy and the drive to play and run with the kids.
2007-06-14 17:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by 212 Degree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is 50 OLD? first time I heard that. I thought 80 and over is OLD. My father was 38 when I was born and he was 53 when my youngest sister was born. He died at 80 but I always thought it was good having an older parent as I always got my questions answered.
Older parents are more fincancially secure and thus can provide more for their children.
2007-06-15 04:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by i love my garden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and want to have his baby, then it is not a concern at all.
Sounds like you might be trying to plan things too much. Or making excuses?
I had my son at 38 and my husband was 35... believe it or not, we still run around with him and I plan to volunteer and do all those things for him as he gets older. I had to laugh... you seem to think that life stops at 35.
My mom had me at 35 and my husband's mom was 41 when he was born. And neither of us suffered at all growing up. In fact, if anything, we benefitted from parents who were more financially stable, more mature, more relaxed and who had much more valuable life experience to share with us.
2007-06-15 00:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by Cathy K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't label you as crazy by any means...women have a little inkling to always focus on the future and what it holds...You can not predict the future, nor can you turn back time...if you love your FI, then everything will be fine :)
2007-06-15 00:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by *Mom to Taylor* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
age brings wisdom
2007-06-19 04:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋