2007-06-14 16:52:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think you should see how your spouse reacts and go from there. if your spouse is upset then let them take the lead. if they are fine then you should mention how you feel.
2007-06-14 16:57:10 · answer #1 · answered by jcrews 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to let your spouse handle this so there are no resentments from him with dealing with his family. You don't go into detail, is this an event where you would have reasonably invited immediate family only due to cost or space? I would hope they would have provided some kind of explanation like "we would love to have Gina and the kids but we are limited to 20 guests in the garden". If you were just thoughtlessly excluded, I would still think about my husbands feelings and let him decide what he thought he wanted to do. He is no dummy, he knows after 21 years that you are not included and he has to decide how he will handle it. A polite "Well I hope all of you have a wonderful celebration, but weekends are my time with Gina and the kids".
Good Luck and I am sorry your in laws are so unkind!
2007-06-14 17:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by donny_mollysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be really hard for me to say that you should react this way or that way. I believe that you know your situation better and are in the position to think things over and objectively.
Of course, I would suggest that you handle the situation as a mature person- giving some leeway to possible reasons on 'why' you or your kids were not invited. Overall, you may not know the real reason (or do you?). It would still be best to talk things out with your husband in the privacy of your own room and let him know exactly how you feel. You may not get answers to your questions directly but one thing is for sure- you're able to express your side to your own husband, who should also be in the position to empathize with you and your children.
Just a piece of advice- don't lose your temper. Keep your cool. Even if his family didn't invite you over, you're still one whole person- you know, you won't lose anything- it is them who will be missing out the opportunity to enjoy you and your children's company.
2007-06-14 17:03:36 · answer #3 · answered by Charlize101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how "not invited" you were. Was the invitation in person or on the phone to your spouse sort of just giving him the information because he was the one they were talking to at the time? Or was it more like a formal invite addressed only to him? Or was it even more formal, addressed to him and specifically requesting you and the kids not come? I guess my reaction would be a lot different for each so I don't know where to point you without more information.
2007-06-15 05:45:49 · answer #4 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you decide on issues. Is there yet another buddy or relative that would watch the canines (possibly pay them 0.5 of what a kennel will charge). additionally you may desire to take a seat and set some rules for the 4 of you - you do no longer could do each and every thing at the same time; yet you've some by myself time and a few couple's time. end being egocentric. Its no longer your anniversary yet, its a trip with friends. in case you have this perspective now, what's it gonna be like in 10 yrs (in case you're nonetheless at the same time). Marriage is approximately compromise, verbal replace, and dealing out small issues - greater desirable initiate doing that.
2016-12-08 09:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's way out of line. What's there problem? I'd be pretty ticked if my spouse went anyway. After all, where is the solidarity? I'd have a heart to heart with your spouse or your spouses family and inform them that you're coming and they can get over it.
2007-06-14 17:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tater 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's insane. Unless it was some crazy mistake, that's quite a snub. Your spouse should inform his extended family that he won't be attending without his immediate family.
2007-06-14 16:59:09 · answer #7 · answered by Heather S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should let him go and be happy they were ignorant upfront instead of waiting til you got there.
He should have said something about it though in your defense and in person will be most effectrive.
It should be something like "he /she is my other half and if hes not welcome then I'm not going to feel very welcome. You are my family and I love you all but I don't need you and if it comes to a choice my spouse will win every time. So if he is not welcome then don't expect me either."
2007-06-18 23:30:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess you and the kids are going to have a week end to hang out, unless he decides he is not going. You are not going to make a stink about a lousy party are you?
2007-06-14 16:57:05 · answer #9 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the invitation back.
2007-06-14 16:59:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋