Mike and I have been dating for almost a year now and we've know each other for more than two. He liked me from the moment he met me, always talking about me and asking when I'd be by, Of course I didn't know this until after I had already started liking his best friend, travis, and dating him but he turned out not to be quite right. The whole time I was gone on vacation for a month Mike called me every day and we'd talk for hours. After we started dating we'd spend all the time together, he never wanted to hang out with any of his friends even though I repeatedly told him to when they called and he'd just ignore the phone. However, lately he's been a little more distant, not calling when he says he will (or me being too impatient to wait) I get irritated when he says "I'll call you when I get out of work" and then see him cruising around town waiting to go hang out with other people or when we're out and he's going to leave for a minute it makes me sooo angry that he doesnt kiss me.
2007-06-14 16:16:54 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It shouldn't bother me that he doesn't come to kiss me every time or that sometimes he wants to hang out with his friends and I tell myself that but I can't help but feeling angry and left out. His roommates Luke and Ashley don't get along very well with me because Ashley and I aren't on good terms. Since Luke and Ashley are dating, of course Luke isn't going to like me either so when those two and Mike are out, he doesn't ask me to come along because he doesn't want to hear it from them. It upsets me so much and when I try to talk to him about all this, I just come out sounding like some highmaintenance girl and he gets pissed off too. How can I stop becoming so irritated at this crap considering it really shouldn't be a big deal?
2007-06-14 16:21:19 · update #1
Some clarifications...
He kisses me 99% of the time when he's going to do something but the one time he doesn't I get so upset like it's the biggest deal in the world.
When he says "I'll call you when I get of work." that means he comes home, takes a shower and dresses then calls me. I get upset that he wants time for himself which sounds completely silly because if we spent every moment together I think it would have been in the dust a while ago.
I'm having trouble moving from the "honeymoon" stage to the real life stage and making understand my side too.
2007-06-14 16:27:39 · update #2
a year is a long time. maybe hes moved on and dosent no how 2 tell u
2007-06-14 16:20:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sami S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, #1 Hate to tell you this, but when a relationship goes on for awhile it starts to get "comfortable". Like you'r used to each other and it seems dull..(lol ..Im married for 2 years so I know this) When your together try to make it more exciting!!! But seriously dear just sit down and talk to him..Keeping things that bother you in will hurt ur relationship in a long time!! If something is bothering him that may be another reason..Just be patient and talk to him..It never hurts anyone!!! Good luck dear!
2007-06-14 23:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by rhoda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about the "not calling" thing. But you need to give him some space cuz you are the one who ask him to hang out with his friends. Guys are clueless most of the time. Good luck!
2007-06-14 23:20:36 · answer #3 · answered by angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the honeymoons over. Thats how relationships go.
2007-06-14 23:19:57 · answer #4 · answered by mrcarl92807 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe it's time to drop him.. if he doesn't even kiss you now maybe his lips are in a different place or on a different person..He may not be cheating.. Maybe he's trying to be like you want.. When his friends call now he goes.. Didn't you want him to go before.. Maybe he thinks he's smothering you.. Talk to him and see what's going on.. Becareful and don't accuse.. Just talk..
2007-06-14 23:22:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jamia T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is comfortable now that he is with you. Refresh his memory that a relationship requires 2 sides to be stable.
2007-06-14 23:21:36 · answer #6 · answered by Monet T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your irritation but here is a another way to look at it. Think about what irritates you about him. Then say to yourself, "What same qualities do I have that are similar to the ones that irritate me about him." Often we are annoyed with things people we truly like do because we do them ourselves (or want to) but just don't admit it to ourselves.
2007-06-14 23:20:21 · answer #7 · answered by holacarinados 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to say this, he just my not be interested in you anymore. he may be seeing someone or he may be gay. just try to get his attention in every way you can think of you sound like a nice girl use it to your advantaged.
2007-06-14 23:23:00 · answer #8 · answered by Schoolboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i dont thing those are stupid things thats sad do you guys still love each other with that passion you dont deserve him if hes being like that
2007-06-22 22:38:26 · answer #9 · answered by xapexrawrzx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's got you, so he can (and does) take you for granted. The thrill for him was the chase...at least that's what it sounds like to me.
2007-06-14 23:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋