I'm 20 and have only slept with one guy my entire life. We've been dating for almost 4 years and until recently I wasn't okay with casual sex. Then I moved away and we're doing long distance.
But I just met this guy and it's a sort of "friends with benefits" thing going. I really like him and I think he likes me but can't confirm, he hasn't said anything.
I want to sleep with him (knowing fully well he won't date me) but I'm too scared!
HELP!
2007-06-14 16:11:57 · 23 answers · asked by Ocean 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Casual sex, means casual. It means you can sleep with him or not and not care about it. If you are this worked up trying to decide, it's not casual.
2007-06-14 16:14:30 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey, a date is just a date! It might mean that you "might" have sex or not. If you're not comfortable sleeping with various people, then don't. Casual sex is just for people who can differentiate is someone is a friend or just an acquaintance. Friends "might" do casual sex depending on their sexual preferences. Let me just ask you why you wanted to sleep with him: Is it because you really like him that much? If so, what would your boyfriend feel if you were in his place? If you don't like him that much, do you just want to sleep with him because you miss your boyfriend so much? Think of what you'd be doing with your life girl! It's a free world out there. Yes it's free but it doesn't me you should abuse it! Take Care!
2007-06-14 16:52:08 · answer #2 · answered by g3tbn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then don't sleep with him. Sex is something special and " casual" just cheapens it. Believe me. Years from now you will regret these choices you are making right now. When you really fall in love with " the one" and you get married you'll have nothing to give him of yourself that is special. You'll have casually given it to others. Can't you just be friends with the guy? Do you have to sleep with him? I have a friend right now who is regretting those choices. She can't get married because no guy wants her. She's a casual friend to everyone and now her friends are all getting married. She has a son from one of those relationships and has had 2 abortions. She lives in her parents basement. She's done this since she was your age. That was 13 years ago. So no casual sex isn't okay. Wait.....fall in love and get married. I wish you luck and all the prayers in the world honey.
2007-06-14 16:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i feel like this is bad advice but i say if you are single and i count all long distance relationships as being single especially when it is more than 5 hours away 3 hours if you ask me i do not thin k that there is a problem as long as you are not sleeping with a zillion guys. No oral and no sex w/o condoms though! but have fun!
2007-06-14 16:21:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i thought u dont like casual sex, why would u still want to sleep with him if u think there is no relationship between 2 of u. try to observe more and it would better for both of u to have a relationship b4 going up further.
2007-06-14 16:23:31 · answer #5 · answered by Mike P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Casual sex is ok if risking your relationships with other people is ok. Oh, and if the risk of desease and pregnancy is ok, then I guess it's ok.
Why not try to have a real relationship with this new guy instead of being his mattress? If you're thinking about him, maybe it would be best to let the other guy go. It would be fair to both of them. And you.
2007-06-14 16:19:10 · answer #6 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
BE SCARED, because it's not worth it. If you already know he's not going to date you, then why give yourself to him? In the long run, you'll feel better about yourself. Sex is good, but girls deal with a lot more than the physical aspects of sex!!
2007-06-14 16:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
So long as you are sensible and safe and know this is just what you called it...casual sex.
Don't do it if you cannot detach yourself emotionally otherwise you will turn into an emotional wreck.
Peace
2007-06-14 16:17:14 · answer #8 · answered by JOHN 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Casual sex is interesting -- every time you go to the doctor. Like playing Russian roulette...
2007-06-14 16:16:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I think it's wrong to see someone else, cuz you're still officially with this guy, even tho it's long distance.
If you have to have sex with this new guy, I think you should break up with your bf so it doesn't get dramatic.
2007-06-14 16:15:29 · answer #10 · answered by x serial saruh x s&m 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋