I have decided to end things with my boyfriend for various reasons, i.e. he goes out drinking most of the week and when he is at home he's drinking, meanwhile we can't pay rent and we have a one year old. I'm going to move back home with my mom, but she is 8 hours away. I really don't know how to start the conversation with my boyfriend about all of this. any help would be great.
2007-06-14 16:06:36 · 6 answers · asked by melashell 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As for people who are being condescending about me (and probably others) getting pregnant before marriage, etc. That's is my own gosh darn business. You don't know my past with him before I got pregnant, you don't know my educational background, and every single person makes mistakes, even you!! you assume way too much. FYI I was on birth control and it failed.
2007-06-15 12:37:43 · update #1
if he is an alcoholic, for the sake of your child...my suggestion to you is to NOT have a conversation with him about it and just be gone one day...he will try to talk you out of it, will say he will change, you will keep giving him chances...and life will jsut be miserable...
let him find out after you are gone...then talk about as to why..
2007-06-14 16:12:00 · answer #1 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he has a drinking problem. It's as simple as that. Tell him to go to Alcoholics Anonymous and to focus on working for the rent. Tell him that he has a child and needs to start being reponsible. To break up with him, just say that he's always drunk and can't support the family, and you think it would be best for you and the baby to move away and give him time to fix himself up.
2007-06-14 16:12:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that conversation should have taken place BEFORE you got pregnant.
he was a drunk then and he is still a drunk. this certainly did not sneak up on you when you weren't looking.
I'm sure that is what your mom is looking forward to, having you and your baby moving back into her home.
next time be a bit more mature before you go out and get pregnant AGAIN and bring another baby back home to mama.
try some birth control, it works wonders!!!
and by the way, if you can't afford to support a child on your own you shouldn't get pregnant.
and try getting married BEFORE you pop out another baby for mom to support.
2007-06-14 16:33:36 · answer #3 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't now exactly how you should start it besides the fact of your child and that you are wanting to do what is best for her and that is, plain and simple. She has to have a roof over her head and a stable home right? Doesn't he truly want that for her ask him. Good luck and keep strong.
2007-06-14 16:14:19 · answer #4 · answered by Kimbabub 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should sit him down and tell him how you feel. tell him you are going to move back with your mom and stay there. if he doesn't like it oh well. you know... what can ya do. if he drinks and sits there, and cares about nothing that means he doesn't care about the baby. I know it is hard to leave and to start the conversation but you gotta do what ya gotta do. :)
2007-06-14 16:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by ginnyjade11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell him, I would simply pack my stuff and go. Get a lawyer about custody, this is his child too.
2007-06-14 16:13:41 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋