she said didn`t love me anymore but i really miss her and want to be with her and want to start a family with her... i could honestly move on tomorrow if i wanted but i really want to be with this girl for a long long time... i tend to get really commited in relationships and now that i`m about to be a daddy i feel even more commited... what can i do.. i`m 18 and she`s 21
2007-06-14 15:58:16 · 15 answers · asked by Durk 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Are you positive it's your child? Did you do something to upset her? Has she been acting crazy and hormonal lately?
I would find out what's going on. If this is your child you have entitlement to help raise it. Maybe she's trying to be a good woman and give you a chance to go to college and get a good job. Try and talk to her and find out what the deal is. Pregnant women don't leave the father for no reason, it's not rational.
2007-06-14 16:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by dahlia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the fact that you are so arrogant to think you can just "move on tomorrow" is a problem. That is probably a portion of why she left you. A man that is truly into his woman doesn't think like that. They think about her and only her, not, I can get any girl I want by tomorrow and move on.
So aside from that, if you want to be involved tell her. You do have rights to the child. But obviously you have done something to upset her and question your relationship. Work on fixing that but in the end she does have final say. Maybe call up her mom and talk to her about how important it is for you to be a family and be part of the baby's life. Having mom on your side might help!
2007-06-14 23:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by RitzFitz29 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Being pregnant causes a lot of emotional meltdowns...trust me on this one. She may just be going through a rough time with the pregnancy and she's taking it out on you. I'm 7 months pregnant and turning 20. The first couple of months were really hard on me and I lashed out at my fiance a lot , told him i didn't love him and didn't know if I wanted to be with him. Of course I didn't mean any of it. Give her a little bit of space but let her know how you feel. Tell her your committed to being with her and the baby and let her make the final decision. On the plus side, if she still decides to leave you, you'll always have rights to your child. And maybe overtime you and her could rekindle some kind of relationship in the future. Good Luck
2007-06-14 23:16:01 · answer #3 · answered by wheresjade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women sometimes are really stressed with hormonal changes at this time. That might be a factor. Is there a possibility that you are not the actual father ? That might be a factor. The possibility exists that she wants to " terminate " the pregnancy. That could be a factor. You need to be supportive and caring while you sit down and have some deep talks with her to find out. She may think that you don't want to be burdened with her and a child. That could be a factor. Good Luck to all Three of You.
2007-06-14 23:11:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like there is more this story, but you may not have a choice if she really doesn't want to be with you but you are still going to be the father to this child so make sure that your rights are protected as such. Hope things work out for you. Good luck.
2007-06-14 23:13:51 · answer #5 · answered by Marie P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself, I am very hormonal when I am pregnant, and I definatly have acted in ways that I regreted, my advice, is give her some space, stay away for like a week or 2, and then go back and try to talk to her rationally and tell her how you feel.
2007-06-14 23:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Girly Q 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be going through alot with her hormones and things like that. You should regardless of how sure you are about the child, and even if she gets angry with you later on and tells you it's not yours, make sure to get the paternity test either way. Just check up on her when you know she has appointments and things like that.
2007-06-15 00:04:12 · answer #7 · answered by briddy29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job, if you don't have one. That was my turn off from my gf. Also ask her if you are the father. Some girls might feel bad if the cheated and then they get scared if they aren't sure its yours. Just try to show her you want to be with her.
2007-06-14 23:09:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Could be hormones? I admire you for wanting to be a part of her life, and your baby's (your baby right?), but if she doesn't come around real soon, then it's probably not hormones and you would best to move on.
2007-06-14 23:14:44 · answer #9 · answered by izzymo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is only 18
She may not be ready for a child and a commited relationship.
Tell her you will be there for her and the baby
She can call you anytime
Be her friend. She needs a freind before a lover
Good luck
2007-06-14 23:03:56 · answer #10 · answered by Halo Mom 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋