so me and my bf hang out with the same people most of the time.. like I've also got other friends from other groups, and so does he ( I'm in grade 11, and he's in grade 10 ) anyways, so he used to have a crush on this one girl like a year ago, and him and her are like always touching other, and I don't mean on the arm or something, like he'll just come up to her a pet her arm or back and say "oo ___ yeah baby " or something, he claims he's jokeing but it bothers me so much, and he also does this with the another girl in our group too. I've done it before, not to the extent he has, but I don't like girls like that, I'm not lez, and sometimes he'll just grab her breast, or she'll grab her hand and put it on her breast. Anyway I'm know he doesn't have a crush on her anymore, and that he's kidding, but it just anoyes me, I've even told him, but he shrugs it off, I really really like him, so breaking up is no option,..please help me, any ideas anyone...
2007-06-14 15:01:57 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like he doesn't respect me and like s to tough other girls more than he likes to touch me, I don't want to be annoying and ruin his fun, cuz I've brought it up before and he was like " I'm just kidding around, n having fun " so I don't want to be a spoil sport, but it jsut makes my stomach hurt....idk what to do, I can't break up with him, I just love him too much,.... except for the touching thing of course...how can I talk to him to let him see what I mean and understand and accept that
2007-06-14 15:05:13 · update #1
You've made it clear that you object to this. He's made it clear that he isn't about to stop.
Your choice is to either break up with this guy, or stick around a guy who doesn't respect you. If neither option is acceptable, that's just too bad for you, since you're going to be stuck with one or the other. Don't stick around expecting him to change, because he won't. If you think he will, you're just fooling yourself.
Sorry I don't have a pretty answer. It's not a pretty situation.
2007-06-14 15:17:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bramblyspam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why U love him so much b cuz ive been through that(but with another guy not him...lol)...N E wayz...2 me it would feel like its not really playing around...it would feel like he thinks that I cant give him what he wants so goes n looks for it in other butches...srry bout that...it would jus get me so mad so I understand...but still U should talk to him seriously...N if it doesnt work or he doesnt want to listen...THEN U GOTTA PLAY THE GAME JUS A LIL BETTER...B cuz thats when hes oging to realize that hes been doing that N jus say the same thing...that UR KIDDING AROUND...doesnt exactly have to be a plan...N thats stupid touching her breast went too far...OR anopther option could be U trying to get that other girl away N take over...Hopefully U undersatnd N that I explained it rite...Much LuCk...
2007-06-14 15:56:18 · answer #2 · answered by curly_805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie if he cares about you even the slightest, he would not disrespect you like that. Tell him straight out that it bothers you and he needs to give you respect. Talk to him.Even if he says "I'm just playing around" it's kind of immature. Don't let him slide with this. Remember there are other guys that will be everything you want them to be if it does not work out between you two. Don't let anyone bring you down. Just have fun and be happy, especially in high school! Good luck ;)
2007-06-14 15:12:05 · answer #3 · answered by U Wish 2 B Me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if this guy really liked you, he would listen to what you have to say and how what he is doing makes you feel. Maybe he is "just joking around", but his behavior and actions are affecting you. What he is doing is disrespectful. You said that you really like him and breaking up isn't an option....well chances are he knows that this is the way that you feel...and he will keep disrespecting you becuz you are allowing it to happen by sticking around.
Simply put, I would tell him this:
I like you, and I have a great time with you. Friends are important to both of us. When you grab ____'s chest and touch her it makes me feel uncomfortable and I don't like it. If this relationship is going to continue to make me feel this way, then this isn't what I want... (I am assuming that you don't like feeling this way)
Maybe you putting your foot down will make him come around and understand where you are coming from...if not, then you are better off without him. Guys that are in relationships with someone that they like respect them and their feelings.....good luck!
2007-06-14 15:15:32 · answer #4 · answered by daisy31 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know you love him and all but if he is touching other girls while going out with you that is not right he should have all his attention to you i think. My advice would be If he doesn't respect you and you feelings he is not right for you. This probably doesn't help you but i'm sure you'll do the right thing.
2007-06-14 15:14:36 · answer #5 · answered by jake 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How about sitting him down and having a serious talk. This might sound impossible for a kid in grade 10. But i'm in grade 10, and it would probably work for me.
2007-06-14 15:06:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you don't like it & it makes you feel uncomfortable. if he really likes you, he will stop. if he doesn't, that means that he doesn't take the relationship closely so just leave him. he's not good enough for you
2007-06-14 15:09:49 · answer #7 · answered by spidergirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him how he would feel if you started doing it to other guys, and if he says he is ok with it- find a guy and tell him your plan. your bf will get the hint, and stop
2007-06-14 15:08:35 · answer #8 · answered by neverland22 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he doesnt respect you and touches other girls then i say smck him thenleave him. well i guess you should tell him it bothers you first but if he keeps doin it then smack him.
2007-06-14 15:06:29 · answer #9 · answered by Steubs 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
sorry but you need to get a new boyfriend....you dont need him anyways sorry
2007-06-15 08:17:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋