I am a freshman in college and i also play football. I just found out my girl is pregnant back home. She doesnt go to school. I have been in school and played ball before i met her. She told me that since what i am doing was before her, she said its ok fo me to continue to go away to school and stuff. I also have to pay for school. She also told me that she can handle the baby financially on her own while im away in school. The only thing she said she would really want me to do is when im home from school on my breaks to maybe keep the baby for a night or two to give her a break. Is all this ok? do you think she could set me up to drain me wit childsupport later?
2007-06-14 14:40:33 · 15 answers · asked by bacdafuxup 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you are the father then it's your responsible to support your child. if you don't then she can get you later on. and you don't went to be know as a deadbeat dad. but if she doesn't went child support from you then you need to go to the courts and get it in writing in front of a judge so later on she can't screw you over. the reason why is so you can protect your butt. good luck.
2007-06-14 14:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by thydarknight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two are having a baby and you are both going to have to support this baby. Draining you financially may be the case it can get rather expensive but its not like she will be living in luxury either she is going to have to invest in this baby as well. I hope that finances are not the only thing you are worried about it takes a lot more than money to be a father, that is what you are going to be and I would think you would want do the best you can at it. Its nice that she is not asking you to come home, and it is great that you are going to get a chance to finish school not every couple put into this position has those options. I would advise that you do right by your child don’t have any regrets. Both of you are going to have to pull together your finances. Try to be there as much as you can.
Good Luck
2007-06-14 14:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pay child support reguardless of whether she can handle everything financially or not. It's your job as a father. Just give her what you can for now. And yes you should get the baby whenever you can. I'm sure you'll come home and just want to chill out, but you are going to have a little person that is a part of you and you need to be with him/her whenever you can. It's great that she's supportive of you staying in scholl, but be sure to help her out, babies are a lot of work. I know, I've had 3.Good luck to you both.
2007-06-14 14:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow ,slow down, you're getting ahead of your self. First, find out if she's pregnant and if you are the second half of that equation.If the answer to both questions is yes,then your girl is a very smart , intelligent , and considerate young woman.And that makes you one lucky guy.However, in the unlikely event that the answer is no ,your question becomes moot.But I feel that you know she is pregnant by you;don't be a jerk ,you will soon have not only a legal but a moral obligation.I hope you will see it in that light rather than worry if she is setting you up for a future bath.Unless, of course ,if you are not the father of her unborn child.
2007-06-14 15:09:18 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You play, you pay, Dad.
If she's not asking for much now, you better give her what she wants. If you don't, she may ask someone else for help who'll give her the advice she needs "Get a lawyer and set up custody and support arrangements now."
You can settle things nowby getting your own lawyer--and make her really mad. Or, you can go along, hoping she stays as nice as she is now and will never come after you in a way that's worse down the road.
2007-06-14 14:46:45 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh she is gonna hit u so hard dont trust her. get a dna test. for ur own good (shows good faith to the courts) then see what u can get done on child support order with all u have to pay n not very much money it might b small like 40$ a wk or something. so do it n cover ur butt now. bc if she files for welfare which she will do. they will come after u for repayment n make her get child support n if u dont put to the court what ur finances are first they could request more later. mayb more than u could pay
2007-06-14 14:46:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you are responsible enough to make a baby, but not responsible enough to help take care of it? Welcome to reality. she can do it right now if she wanted to and not a lot you can do about it either. This is what is known as taking the consequences for your actions
2007-06-14 14:47:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she can get your for child support later on. Are you sure the baby is yours?
2007-06-14 14:45:07 · answer #8 · answered by MCBC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright dude first of all SHE IS NOT READY FOR A BABY...def not and you should definitely tell your parents...talk to her about considering getting birth control...you too are definitely not ready..im a freshman and i cant even find the strength to clean my ******* room let alone care for a baby...dont do it...for your and her own good
2007-06-14 14:45:47 · answer #9 · answered by Samuel B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure just let her know you there for her always snd if she need help she can get it just stay in school get a good job and take care of you GURL and BABY dont walk out on them keep them in your life ESCPECIALLY YOUR BABY
2007-06-14 14:56:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋