I am the matron of honor in my cousin's wedding. About four months ago, we got in a little tiff, and things have not been the same since...very formal, and almost fake. Her sister-in-law (her brother's husband) is her new best friend. We have been talking about the wedding on and off for the past couple of weeks - bride's maids dresses, cake, etc. Then, today, I got an email, sent out by the bride and her new best friend, telling all the bridesmaids (there are 8) when and where the bachelorette party is going to be, and asking me if I'm going to be there. I'm the matron of honor! I'm supposed to plan the bachelorette party! Should my feelings be hurt that she and her new best friend have gone behind my back and planned this - neither of them mentioned it when we were talking about other things... I am a sensative person, and sometimes, I feel like I overreact, but this hurt my feelings.
2007-06-14 14:26:51 · 14 answers · asked by Glassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It would hurt my feelings too. If I were you I would find some time to try and talk with your cousin about your feelings. If you got in a tiff you really need to try and work it out before the wedding. You will ultimately continue to get your feelings hurt and it will build up to bitterness. You need not be angry on HER wedding day. Do the best you can to fix the situation. Good Luck
2007-06-14 16:37:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, your feelings should be a little hurt, but don't let it bug you too much. Your relationship has changed, and it is natural that the bride will start to lean toward someone that is closer to her. It is not a bad reflection on you, but merely shows that you and her are both changing. Try not to take it too personal. It is unfortunate that she did not consult you on this, but there is a lot going on and her brain is probably filled to the brim. What you could do, to take the pressure off, is to politely ask your cousin if she would prefer that the friend take over as matron of honor, and you could revert to just being a bridesmaid. Emphasize that you would love to stay matron of honor, but you just want to make sure that she is happy. It is HER wedding, afterall. If you do this, you will be taking the high road, and will be patching things up on top of that. Whatever she decides, you will be the one that looks good, but don't be surprised if she actually chooses you!
2007-06-14 14:38:01 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can feel hurt, but you guys were in a tiff and I'm guessing she didn't know if you were doing a bachelorette party for her anymore or not, so she and her new best friend decided to do so instead!
I would just let it slide. Try to patch things up with her before the wedding so you are more comfortable with each other and not as "formal".
2007-06-15 01:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have the right to be hurt! Call up the bridesmaid or call your cousin and ask "I AM the matron of honor still, right?!" Then tell her you are hurt that the planning wasnt left up to you and you were left out of it entirely.
2007-06-14 18:42:49 · answer #4 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to settle this now. Call her or e-mail her and let her know that you are aware of the party, if your presence is expected their, if not why are you going to be the maid of honor? Deal with it with some tact but let it be known that you know what is going on. Good Luck.
2007-06-14 14:33:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let it slide. Consider it a blessing that you don't have to worry about planning a party in addition to the other duties as MOH. Things like this happen all the time whether intentionally or not and trust me, in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter the least.
2007-06-14 14:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I would let if go, go to the party and enjoy yourself. If it is uncomfortable, then you might want to think about having a chat with bride. Be the bigger person and say you are sorry and move on, that puts the ball in her court.
2007-06-15 03:33:05 · answer #7 · answered by mamatucker 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask her if you are still the MOH. She might of thought that you let the bacheloette party slide because of the tiff.
2007-06-14 14:55:50 · answer #8 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, but I think you should let it go. Tensions seem to run high right before a wedding. Just go and have a fun night. Maybe you should talk to your cousin to see how she feels.
2007-06-14 15:11:31 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
not to be mean but are you sure you are still the matron of honor. and yes you have aright to be upset.
2007-06-14 18:31:43 · answer #10 · answered by hate life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋