I need your help, guys.?

Question

I really like this guy who happens to be one of my best friends. Usually the girls he likes are skinny and pretty and perfect. I am not attractive. (The only people who have ever told me I was pretty were my parents and my best friend) I want to tell him I like him. If your best girl friend liked you, would you give her a chance, even though she is not as pretty as the girls you usually like? I am really insecure and have really low self esteem and he is the only guy who has EVER made me feel loved.

Answer 1

If you two are that close, there's obviously something there. Go for it. You are probably a lot prettier than you think and guys don't always date the girls they like. Sometimes, they date the girls they think their friends or society have made them feel they are supposed to like.

Answer 2

Most guys have secret crushes on their female friends. If you are best friends, then chances are he already sees something in you that appeals to him. But you have to feel worthy of being his girl, and being insecure will not get you there. If you were to start something with him in this state of mind, you would always be suspicious every time you see him talking to a skinny, "perfect" girl.

By the way, I used to be one of those "skinny, pretty, perfect" girls, and at 42, I am no longer skinny (still pretty and perfect, though!), and I sometimes feel unattractive. But guys still look at me -- why? For the same reason I had to add that stuff in parentheses, I have a lot of self-esteem and didn't base it on my waistline, my looks, or any of that surface stuff.

A lot of attractive people are not beautiful, and a lot of beautiful people are not attractive. If he sees something in your personality, in the way you are not guarded around him, and in the way you are you, then he is already close to being on board.

You just have to believe you deserve a guy as great as you think he is. And if he isn't into you that way, you can take it one of two ways: be hurt and feel worse about yourself, or realize that he just loves you as a person, which is so hard to get a guy to do, it takes a special one to do that. And be happy that he loves you, because you deserve it!!!

Answer 3

You said he makes you feel loved. Thats a good step on his part. So you already have a chance. But you can't be naive either. You should work on yourself. I mean, become his type. Exercise, take care of yourself, do all in your power to become desirable, personality-wise too. Be the sweetest girl in his life without expecting him to fall head over heels for you, (though there is no guarantee he won't) And don't push it on him, don't make him feel like he has to ask you out or something. Find out what he likes. Know him, know when he's down and be there for him. If you really love him, never give up on him. No matter what he does, be there for him and love should find you. But, If he just won't notice you, oh well, now that you've worked on yourself to the limit, others will.

Answer 4

I know im not a guy, But pick our self esteem up, no one ever tells anyone they are pretty all the time, You dont have to be told you are pretty to be pretty, Maybe he likes you, and you dont even know it, If he's cute why would he want a ugly friend!!!! have you ever asked yourself that??? Cute guys, no matter how nice they are never hang around not attractive females.......

Dont mess up your friendship let it grow into a relationship on its own, I was in the same situation, I let my bf date all these loser girls, and get hurt...... Then he relized ,I was the one that had his back no matter what.. I was his best friend.. Now wife.

Take my advice it works!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

To be honest darl'n... the reason that the only people that tell you you're pretty is your family, is because you don't think you're pretty.

It may sound cliche, but if you think you're not attractive - then to the rest of the world - you're not attractive.

Embrace that feeling of love that you have when you're around him and use that to boost your self esteem. He already knows how great you are, which is why he spends so much time with you in the first place. Once YOU know how great you are - you'll be irresistable :)

Answer 6

well, im a guy in his position, i know a friend that likes me, im not really attracted. And i know that alot of guys would make fun of me if i did. But, my honest answer would be that i would give her a chance, if only she knew that i know. I want her to tell me how she feels, then i will ask her out and give her a chance. I hope i can help you out.

Answer 7

He's already accepted you as his best friend, so why not take the next step. If you ask to be more than friends, the worst he can say is no. You wont lose your friendship over something like that. Just give it a shot. Good luck =]

Answer 8

Hate to say it, but if you are his best friend and not his girlfriend, there's probably a reason. He obviously values you but in a non-romantic way. If he makes you feel loved, keep him as a friend. Friends are forever, boyfriends are not. My best friend is a guy and I know he loves me and I am #1 in his life, but I don't give him butterflies. Sounds like you might be in the same situation.

Answer 9

Get him alone with you, maybe after school or work, and tell him your honest feelings. Guys love honesty, and he might even feel the same way about you! If he doesn't, just letting him know helps and he will probably come toward you more and you'll have a better chance with him.

Answer 10

I would tell her that we are good friends, and should stay that way. If she convinced me that she just wanted sex to see what is was like, I would try to help her as a friend. That being said, you never know what that may lead to, just be aware that it may change a good freindship, either for better or worse. The chance you take.