One of my good friends for a long time has been in a realtionship for about 2 years. They have been living together for 1 year. I started noticeing the girl acting a lil differently. She would go out to parties without him and staying out all night. Then one night at like 1 am he calls me and is like I have to get the hell out of here. So I find out that she cheated on him and confessed she said she couldnt take the guilt anymore. He told me that she might try and sucker him into staying with her and told me not to let him. Well like 2 days later I see them together again and I pulled him aside and was like wat r u doing? He told me that she was stressed and that was how she let off some steam and she wouldnt do it again. Then when I tried to remind him what he had said the other night he got pissed at me and walked away. From my experience once a cheater always a cheater. Shouldnt he leave her? What kind of a reason is stress!!!???????
2007-06-14 14:14:42 · 14 answers · asked by Mr. Martini 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i honestly do agree with the "cheater always a cheater". soemtiems girls can play with a guys mind and talk them into doing things that they usually wouldnt do. and he's blinded by love. he's hurt by the cheating but he's soo blind by it that whatever shes been saying or doing is suppose to be "right" and you know what. do what you can, and if he still wants to stay than thats his fault. its his life right? you did your best. stress my @ss
2007-06-14 14:20:59 · answer #1 · answered by stefani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop enabling him. You say that you have gone out with him and told him things, but remember it is not what you say but what you do that matters. Don't take his calls, don't go on dates, tell him it is over (that is if you really feel like it is). For you, you need to decide whether it is over or not and then take action to stop seeing him. By the way, I see a lot of responses to get restraining orders. Before you do that understand how serious that is and how bad that is for him (it often means an arrest depending on the state you live in. You need to decide what you want or don't want and then be very clear with him. You can't play both sides.
2016-05-20 22:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress is a STUPID reason to cheat on someone. What happens the next time she gets stressed? Or again after that? I know of no one who has no stress in their life. And a leopard doesn't change it's spots. She WILL cheat on him again, especially if after only 24 hours, he's crawled right back into her lap. What is that telling her? It's Ok to cheat, because I'll be mad at you for a little while, and then everything will be Ok again. He may be saying something else with his words, but his actions send a different message entirely. If he's smart, he'll get out now before she has the chance to hurt him over and over and over again.
2007-06-14 14:25:47 · answer #3 · answered by simplykrystie333 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my humble opinion, it's as simple as this:
They're not married, that's a good thing.
It's all about respect. Blowing of steam or not, she's proven beyond the shadow of a doubt that she doesn't respect him or their relationship. Its time for him to move on. Ya, two years is a long time, but why waste 2 or 10 more years?
If they were married w/ kids, i'd say consider it a lot more, but the way I see it, if she's not faithful now, it's only going to get worse later (even if she is truely sorry for what she's done).
MOVE ON . . .
2007-06-14 14:21:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend will have to make this decision on his own. He's grown man, and will have to live with whatever decision he makes. As his friend, you should just support him in whatever decision he makes, that way he knows you're truely his friend and there for him. Just make sure you're there for him when she does it again, and don't be the one to say "I told you so." As for the cheating, if it was just a one time thing, it might be forgiveable, if she's really committed to the relationship and truely sorry that she did it the one time. If it was an on going thing and has done it more than once, I would agree with you that your friend should leave her. But again, he's a grown man and will have to make that decision for himself.
2007-06-14 14:19:53 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be right, but you can't make this decision for your friend. He'll have to decide for himself. If you push him into it too much, he won't learn his lesson.
Tell him that playing a "resquer" with women (ahh, poor thing was stressed, I got to save her) won't get him into a healthy relationship.
I don't exactly suscribe to "always a cheater" thing. BUT: he needs to make sure she learned her lesson. He should ask her: "What makes you say that you won't do it again? What if you're stressed again? Why will you never cheat on me again?" I'd suggest it to him, but wouldn't insist that he reports to you. Just be there for him.
2007-06-14 14:19:24 · answer #6 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to cheat. Stress is a crappy reason. It is your friends decision to make so don't force the subject. It will make you the enemy so stay out of it.
2007-06-14 14:20:05 · answer #7 · answered by jewelsthomas 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. You shouldn't let him see her anymore even if he don't talk to you so later on you can be happy with yourself and say that you tried to help a friend out.
2007-06-14 14:18:32 · answer #8 · answered by Fabo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes he SHOULD leave, once a cheater Always a cheater
2007-06-14 14:16:57 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right dude..........he should totally leave her now. i no if i got cheated on that would totally get PO'd
2007-06-14 14:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by always&forever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋