have any of you had feelings for a girl you have known for a while but thought it was to complicated to have a relationship with them so you don't ask her and move on and date another girl? If so what keeps you from asking out the girl you have known for a long time?
I have known this guy for about 9 years our familes are friends and i am two years older than him, but he is constanly dropping hints that he likes me but doesn't ever ask me out. what's keeping him from asking me out?
2007-06-14 13:54:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
fear is a big obstacle with longtime friends. Yes he may like you but he is afraid to say something that might hurt ur friendship. He is dropping hints to get you to do something as well. If he wont ask u out them naybe u should take the leap and start something, ask if he will join u at a movie, go to lunch and talk, invite him to your house, any little action might give him enough nerve to say something or ask you out. I myself am very afraid, u might say, that if i say i care about my bestfriend one mor etime i might lose her, i am completey in love with her, she just thinks i really like her but its more to me, i have made it awkward for her to talk to me or be around me, ur the girl in the situation u only have to worry about the guy being awkward around you now, so if u really think he is into u then go for it. girls dont have the same rejection problems as we do, simply ask him out, cuz later on if neither of u say something he is going to feel rejected by u, i felt i was rejected by my friend, she always hinted but she doesnt want me right now, if that happens to u, just wait, or get on with ur life and try later on. Hope this helps
2007-06-14 14:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Ben 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a few possible reasons and I am listing some for you to reflect on.First, he might just be too shy to ask you ; he also might feel that because your families are friends and you are two years older(no big deal),you will see him not in a romantic light (like a brother) or the family dynamic will change if a relationship does not work out.Regardless of his particular reason, if you like him [ which it appears you do],take the bull by the horns and ask him out yourself. After all this is 2007--right!.Some men actually enjoy women asking them on a date.
2007-06-14 14:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I usually have no reservation and make the first move - no problem. Your guy is either really shy and scared or isn't interested and just being flirtatious. Guys are really oblivious to what goes on in a girl's mind. He's not a psychic. You have to tell him directly...not little hints but straight out tell him. What do you have to lose? Ok, maybe you'll be embarassed if he says he just wants to be friends but you'll get over it.
2007-06-14 14:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by MCBC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's the thought of rejection, or he doesn't want to ruin a good friendship. This is the age of equal rights, so why not ask him out? If you're interested, worst he can say is no, or do you have the same fears??? Give it some thought!!
2007-06-14 14:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by ffemt6347 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is when it comes to relationships between friends it can be difficult for a guy to make a move, one reason is guys are afraid of rejection. He doesn't want to make the relationship awkward. If you really like him make the first move, break the ice a little bit..
2007-06-14 14:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this one woman. She and I have been friends for about 15 years, and I have been attracted to her for most of that time. I am afraid that if we got together I would loose one of my closest friends. Sooner or later ALL my relationships have went bad. I believe it is best to be friends before starting a romantic relationship, but I couldn't bear to lose her. This may be going on with your friend, or he may simply be shy.
2007-06-14 14:04:18 · answer #6 · answered by Nels N 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys younger than me who are not arrogant are too insecure/uncertain about your response if they asked you out. Not asking is a certain way to avoid perceived rejection, regardless of history, and being rejected is worse than not having a relationship.
2007-06-14 14:06:31 · answer #7 · answered by Indy Gentleman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not making it clear your interested, we are just men, we usually fail to pick up subtle hints. Hit him with a crowbar next time he hints about it.
2007-06-14 16:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you are two years older..some guys like younger gals..maybe you intimidate him..he has to have some self confidence problems if he just hints at asking you out..maybe he wants you to ask him out?
2007-06-14 14:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want him to ask you out, you should try letting him know that you want it too. Drop hints just as he is, and soon enough, you'll like eachother enough to bring it up straight forward.
2007-06-14 13:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Howdy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋