she wants to bring her friend along?

Question

i asked a girl out on myspace and she said yes.....but the problem is she wants to bring her room mate and her roomie's bf along .....but im not comfortable facing all of them on a first date.....how do i tell her to not bring her roomie

Answer 1

You don't. You get some guy friends & make it a more social event. If you tell her to come alone, that will freak her out. She is obviously being cautious (and smart) because she met you online. You could be crazy, and the the same note,. so couls she. it's best the way she is planning it. A real first date can always come later after the two of you know each other better.

Answer 2

I am guessing if you met her online that she is a little nervous about meeting a guy from the internet alone, so she asked her friend to come for a double date to make sure she is safe. I think you should just tell her you are nervous about meeting them, perhaps ask what her reasoning behind bringing them is but at the same time understand if that is the reason why, you might just have to accept it :) especially if you like her then maybe the next date it will be just you and her:)

Answer 3

She's bringing her roomie to be SAFE! Either accept it or ask another girl out on myspace that doesn't care about her safety and well-being. You can never be too sure these days.....!!!!

Answer 4

Well, that's not uncommon. When meeting someone that she met online, of course she's going to be cautious. I can understand your side of it as well, though. It's a lot of new faces and everyone will know everyone else but you won't.

Try this: ask some of your friends to go. Make it a group thing and that way you will have some folks around you that you are comfortable with. If that date goes well, then you may be able to see her one on one soon.
Good luck!

Answer 5

Well meeting online will sometimes scare people as there is always the possibility of someone being a crazy person. I would accept her proposal as that is going to make her comfortable. Then after the first date see if shes willing to do one on one.

Hope this helps.

Answer 6

Perhaps she's just a little shy for the first date, and being with some of her friends would make her feel much more comfortable. So for now, let her, but in the future, as you guys progress into more and more dates, tell her it should be one-on-one.

Answer 7

I suggest you just go with the flow and meet all of them in real life. If you asked this girl out through Myspace (without knowing her in real life) she's probably bringing friends to ensure her safety.

If you know her in real life though, that's another story. If you truly do mind if some of her friends are coming, politely ask her to come alone.

Answer 8

She's probably bringing them along for a sense of security. You met on myspace for goodness sakes. And you know how many people lie like crazy on there?

She's just trying ot be safe.

Say yes, bring them along. They'll all be friendlier I think knowing that you are agreeable.

Answer 9

Its a common BS trap. She's only bringing her friend so her friend & company can gauge your personality and actions. Her friend will either think you are hot and go out of her way to sabotage your chances, or she will decide you are ugly and not good enough for her friend. You're screwed, but being funny is what I hear works. You can be broke, ugly and nasty as hell, but if you're funny you can get the girl. Then stop being funny after you get her.

Answer 10

hey, respect her wishes. look, for a girl to meet someone online and then agree to go out is a pretty dangerous thing. the group dynamics will ease the quiet parts, and she immediately gets feedback from her friends. but you also get a great deal of info about her through her choice in friends etc.

if you had a sister and SHE met a guy online, wouldn't YOU be concerned for her safety. stop thinking only of yourself. have fun.