Have your bf.gf or ex left you to travel, vacation , etc for a while? how did it change things?

Question

Hello all. I am curious for these two situations. Please answer if they apply to you. and greatly appreciated, as this will be helpful for me.

1. Have you had a situation where your waiting for the person you love to come back to you (ex bf) and you or the ex bf/gf left you for a month or so to travel, study, vacation etc far away from you? Did it change things when she/he came back? Did it help to get away?

2. Do you think being away from each other helps the relationship knowing that when you come back things will be the same if not better or worse? Which is true. Absence makes the heart grow fonder? Or out of sight out of mind.

Thanks guys.

Answer 1

I was in love with someone who treated me terrible and used me. It hurt me soul deep and I thought I would die. I woke up one morning and decided I had enough and moved 35 miles away. I didnt leave a note, or even say goodbye. I just left with whatever I believed was important and part of my clothes.
I did not call him, leave him a message or attempt to contact him for 5 months. I filed for a divorce and one morning he came knocking on my door. I let him in and cried and talked to him for about 2 hours and just told him I could not live like that anymore and I was ready for divorce.
When I walked into the court room, I was shaking. The divorce proceeding took place without him and the judge asked me about 3 questions and my divorce was granted.
My heart was broken because I shamed myself, I shamed my son and put us through hell over a man who didnt want anything except my money. I was so broke. It took about 3 yrs to get financially on top of things again. I am glad I left and I will never make that mistake again.

Answer 2

I can't say this is something I have ever had to deal with; however, I don't think I would deal all that well with spending the day with his ex! I wouldn't mind at all spending time with him and his kids, but the ex is a bit over the top! I would mention it to him in that way if it were me, maybe he could spend half the day with his kids and you, without the ex, (that way the ex doesn't feel completely ousted from her vacation with her kids and gets the rest of the time with them) and then the rest of the time is for you and him!?!? I'm certain his ex could find something to do for that half day, go shopping or something? I think her even wanting to be involved with his time with the kids is a bit strange, but who knows! Good luck to you!

Answer 3

I waited two years for my bf & things were great when he first got back. Then, he was gone another two years. After about a year the 2nd time around, I had met someone else whom didn't want to part from me as my x did. I will not go backwards. My wheels only turn forward. I climb up, not down. Heaven is my goal, not hell.