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Question

I've never been one of those girls who is obsessed with their virginity, nor do I believe premarital sex is morally reprehensible. Up until yesterday, I was a virgin more by circumstance (ie not finding a suitable partner) than choice. My boyfriend and I extensively discussed our feelings on having sex and whether it is the right path for us (he is from a very Catholic family). He made it clear that he wanted me, and that as long as we were in love there was nothing wrong with sex. Throughout our relationship it had been extemely hard for me to abstain... so hearing him say that was honey to my ears, right? But then after we actually "did the deed" he started expressing regret about it.... I asked him why he chose to do it with me then, and he said that he felt I would be hurt if he told me his fears... So I guess my main problem with this is that he didn't trust me enough to tell me how he really felt (that he wasn't ready). What can we do to get back on the same page?

Answer 1

Totally nothing. He lied to you, and to himself. You did no wrong babe, don't feel guilty.Unless you change and see it as wrong or him as alright . . . you'll never be on the same page.

Answer 2

wide eyed,
this is not your fault,,he is a catholic and he is ashamed that he had sex. after a man has an orgasm his sex drives plunges,and he feels guilty but it is something he has to work out. its just because he is young and doesnt have any sexual experience. many men have this problem,especially catholics.
he doesnt know how he feels about sex,,its natural for both of you to want sex,but his religious beliefs have him feeling ashamed,,it has nothing to do with you,,

Answer 3

Give him time. Just love and support him and give it room. Catholics always feel guilt... sometimes even after marriage.