Why is it so wrong to have sex before marriage if two people truly love one another? I understand you have to go through the church as a way of connecting the vow with god, etc.
What if a virgin boyfriend and girlfriend get stranded on a deserted island and are forced to live there for their entire lives away from human contact? I guess they can't have sex or they will go to hell Huh.
2007-06-14 11:52:59 · 29 answers · asked by Johnny_Jurassic 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
If they're committed to one another, they're forming a common-law marriage before the formal, church-recognized one. The real problem is when they're using each other as toys - that can really wreak havoc on their emotions (not to mention STDs, etc).
For your "situational ethics" version. I feel really sorry for you trying to justify yourself with that one. I also feel sorry for any children the hypothetical couple may have. Please don't do that anymore.
2007-06-14 12:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by John K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is suppose to be a commitment between a man and a woman in the eyes of God and Man. It is this commitment, going through the laws of God and Man, that set the foundation for them to truly be ONE in the sight of God...it also sets the foundation for the best possible place for children to be born.
To take your example, if there is NO law of the Land, and no one else around, then the two people would set up their own "Law of the Land" and make a commitment before God. The only problem will be if they are ever rescued. Or if either were already married to someone else, and would that be the ideal situation to bring kids into the world with? After all, would it be ok to satisfy your own desires and create children that will never be able to satisfy their own when they come of age? Sex is about so much more than just scratching an itch.
2007-06-14 12:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by LDS~Tenshi~ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
The point of marriage is to confess and commit yourselves before God to your love. It is promise. I am sure that God will forgive you if you are the only ones on Earth, or a stranded island. If you truly love each other you need to procreate, then I really think God would be ok with it. It's a hard concept to grasp, talk to God and He'll give you the answer. Talking to your pastor helps a lot too!
2007-06-14 12:08:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will not be condemned to Hell. Love is not self-seeking, it considers the needs of others. Love is NOT a feeling. Is it truely love to say you feel for a person and what to be with them, but are not ready to make a commitment. It is only selfish if you desire sexual satisfaction without devoting your entire life to that other person. It is not love at all. and Sex is the most personal physical expresson of love and it should not be experienced without a devotion that is meant for only one other person.
As far as the island, they would have to apply the same pricipal. Each would have to be completely commited to the other. It is not out of desperation or lack of choice. Commitment is not just not having sex with any other person. It is caring for and meeting every need your love has. If sex is not a part of that deep devotion, or if one cannot preserve their lover's puriy until their pledge has been made official, it is selfish lust.
Love is so much more than sex.
2007-06-14 12:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Pilot 4 Jesus 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's either wrong or right. I think that's a deciscin that every one must make based on their own beliefs. Virginity used to be considered sacred, but it doesn't seem to be anymore. I saw an episode of Tyra Banks one time where sex was the topic and she had a 16 year old girl on who had already slept with 8 different guys!!!! At 16! My goodness, at this rate, think of how many she'll have slept with by the time she gets married! Of course, she'll probably end up pregnant long before then, though. It's a self respect thing, too.
2007-06-14 11:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's because God intended for sex to be for marriage only so people could procreate and make children which is God's orders for all mankind to have multiply and fill the Earth and also so sex is a personal thing between a husband and a wife.
2007-06-14 13:01:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is the spiritual connection created by the physical act. Sex is the act that cements the covenant. If the physical act is performed outside of the covenant the spiritual connection is still made but without the covering or protection of the covenant. It opens the door to problems in the future, both spiritual and emotional.
2007-06-14 11:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by kaehya2003 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Any human logic we use will lead us astray. God's law is perfect and complete. But nowhere does he ever say we must go through a church to connect a marriage vow.
Vows are made before God alone. Anything else is for show and not a requirement of God.
2007-06-14 11:56:47 · answer #8 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
"if two people truly love one another" that's the relevant point - how can you tell? Is love that lasts 5 minutes truly love?
Lot's of babies come from unions outside of marriage and many of those babies start their life handicapped by not getting the love, commitment & support that they should have.
I'm not a prude but I believe sex is "given" away too lightly -not valued enough. I say this from personal experience.
2007-06-14 12:04:14 · answer #9 · answered by flip 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This rule - which is present in many societies - only makes sense in the absence of contraception and female emancipation.
Practically all religious and secular restrictions on sex are morally backward in a world with near-perfect contraception.
CD
2007-06-14 12:00:28 · answer #10 · answered by Super Atheist 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋