Should I get a girlfriend?

Question

I am shy and goofy looking, which is a problem. I have never truly tried to get a girlfriend. I never asked a girl out because I talk goofy and I look goofy and ugly. I figured if they liked me, they would approach me. I don't want to ask a girl out because none of my friends are girls and I am shy. They are all guys. I try to act cool, but I end up acting goofy. I don't think I am that great looking as I look like a dinosaur and dinosaurs can't be good looking. And I can never show love. I concentrate on making myself look tough and trying to be a good leader. I just don't view being in love as tough, and I am basically afraid of being in love and having someone love me. care about being rich or power more than girls, who would only add drama to my life.

Answer 1

BE YOURSELF! Good things comes to those who waits. Be friends with the girls you like. Friendship is always a good start for every relationship to bloom! If your not ready for love, well there's no rule that states that you should fall in love! It comes naturally and it will normally hit you when you don't expect it! So, be yourself, be more friendly with the opposite sex and approachable; being tough is not at all that cool you know. You'll just end up looking like a jerk. What you are inside is far more better looking than what people see from the outside! Loosen up! you only have this one lifetime to spend, so spend it wisely!

Answer 2

Well since i have many friends that are girls let me start off by saying: "GET SOME FRIENDS THAT ARE GIRLS!!"
I have never actually asked out one of my friends but still. Love is very tough, that you need to know. You should not be afraid of looking goofy around girls its sometimes natural for guys to act goofy. Also you should never be shy around women they are just people like the rest of us. Being a good leader is good it makes you look tough so no need to act like it then, also if you act like a good leader it shows you can support not only yourself but somebody else which makes you attractive to the opposite sex. And in this day and age I would like to say you should not wait for a girl to ask you out they like it better if the guy does it. Sorry.

Answer 3

Ok. If you don't want a girlfriend, then fine. That's your decision. But you know what? I think you're here asking because you DO want one, otherwise, why would you bother asking? What you are doing here is basically saying, "I want love, but I don't want to have to do anything to get it." Well, I'm sorry to inform you, but it just doesn't work that way. If you don't want a girlfriend, then keep doing what you are doing. It is working. But if you really want a girlfriend, then you just need to learn to open up more, show love, get over your shyness, and stop waiting for a girl to fall into your lap. You say that you don't see being in love as being "tough," but the last I looked most of the tough guys had girls. They didn't get them by being shy and "acting tough." You might consider getting some counseling.

Answer 4

No, you shouldn't get a girlfriend yet. What would be your reasoning, do you think because you are able to get a girlfriend that somehow validates you as a humanbeing or makes you more cool? Sorry. Before you even think about girlfriend hunting, you need to build up your self-esteem.

From what I've been reading you are totally down on yourself. So what if you aren't the handsomest guy on Earth. Thankfully most girls don't care that much about looks. As long as you don't look like the elephant man, I wouldn't worry about that. But you do need to be secure in yourself. So start there.

From there, start to get to know some girls as just friends until you're comfortable with girls. Until then, work on you and just being happy. If your shyness is a real general problem you can get help for that. Girls are attracted to fun, confident guys who are comfortable in their own skin. When you've gotten closer to that place, you'll be ready for a girlfriend.

Answer 5

what you have is a low self esteem. thats not good..so try work on it, another thing i noticed is that you know what is wrong with you, you say your goofy, and you try to act cool, i would say try being yourself and if you still end up being goofy then go out and buy new clothes and try get a new outlook on yourself...on the other hand you said 'would [girls] only add drama to my life'
this tells me that deep down you aren't really looking for a girlfriend, you maybe just feel left out coz all your friends (might) have girlfriends or you feel you're missing out.
another option that come to mind is that you might sub-consciesly be gay, i aint pointing fingers but you say all your friends are guys..think about it...good luck!!!

Answer 6

Okay i totaly disagree with Anna.
First of all how old are you?
Second, what do u look like exactly? (height, eye colour, hair colour, acne yes or no, overweight?)
Third, U deffinatly cannot go around saying u look like a dino person, u have to think positve! Say positive things about urself(to urself u dont want to sound Concieted)
Dont try to "act cool" cause unfortunatly thats sooooo not cool and yes...u will look like a Huge dork, so please be urself, SOME girls like that about guys! :)

Much love to you,
Bri

Answer 7

ah, we all have a problem, and dont be scared because when you do find that one, you will not feel scared you feel glad and good. so at least try to look for her not to much just some effort at it. Ask a girl that you like or get to know a girl that you like, and remember she is not necessarily the one so have CONFIDENCE ok girls girls we are only girls:) good luck

ps I am a fan of dios hahahh my flats have dinosaur desings, and many of my accessories. lol

Answer 8

Is good to really don't want to have a girl that will add drama to your life bcos trust me having a girl friend is not really easy. But you may have to get married on day so u might to consider giving it a try right now. When u find the right one she might add good things to your life. Good luck.

Answer 9

You should, only when your ready. One of my really good friends was telling me the other day that he had trouble learning how to like back. Its a learning process that firls learn faster than guys, and girls need to understand that.
Secondly, about your looks. you need to be confident in yourself before any girl can say she likes you. Be yourself. Most girls can see right through a guy trying to act like he's someone he's not. Dont act cool, be yourself. and if they dont like that. its thier problem not yours

Leelah

Answer 10

well you shouldnt focus on being ugly just ask a cute innocent girl out and you may find yourself in a very good relationship but dont get involved with mean girl cause theyll just get you down. Hope this Helped!!