encourage parents that they can do no wrong, and if their grown kids have anything to say about it then the "child" is labelled as rebellious, foolish, immature, silly, depraved, selfish, etc etc....
i think this woman is extremely condescending and passive aggressive. help me figure out if I'm right! i feel like i'm going nuts! my mom is listening to this crap! she's already disowned my brother!
http://www.savethehome.blogspot.com/
2007-06-14 10:29:51 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i can't talk to her. i've tried. i'm not the best daughter. I'm angry with her, to be honest. she told me when i was in 4th grade that she wished i was never born. she blames me for everything. she throws things at me and screams. yet i'm the one that's making the relationship bad according to these people. i feel like i'm going nuts! sometimes *I* wish i was never born
2007-06-14 10:43:43 · update #1
oh and by 'disowning' i mean she says he does not exist to her.
i'm not concerned with money. i just want ... i just want my mom to be nice to me
2007-06-14 10:44:58 · update #2
I read some of the info at that website and to be frank with you, I think its bullshit. Bottom line is that you learn from others mistakes, you shouldn't treat your kids like crap even if you were treated that way. I hope you are old enough to know that you don't need to be like her, and can learn from her mistakes. I don't know how money would fit in to this but, you seem very educated in knowing that "mommy doesn't always know best". I am a mom, and I listen to my daughter and I am wrong sometimes, but I will acknowledge that and make it up to her. So to finally answer your question, you are not crazy, THEY ARE!
2007-06-14 11:06:41 · answer #1 · answered by jonni_richter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this woman may of been raised and labeled as being no good. So it's a possibility this woman can only answer in the manner in which she was taught. It sad to think of person growing up and be belittled by a parent. It could be that your mother may have been treated the same way and believes this to be true. Try talking her about how her parents treated her. This could help you in how to approach your mother.
2007-06-14 17:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by Lady B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mom is making her choice, unfortunately she chooses against you and your brother. I'd try and move on, one day she will want contact with her grandchildren, and maybe there will be a chance for heeling, but that's not today.
Just because she's your mom doesn't give her the right to belittle you. Just like anyone else in life, if they are destructive to you or your family, you must limit/eliminate the time you spend with them.
Good Luck
2007-06-15 03:26:25 · answer #3 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look. if you are thinking only aboput money. you are lost. there are more thinks going on about a family.
unfortunately, you don't give more information. you can criticize, but how do you bahave???
are u a good daughter??
talk to you mom. it seems you are having communication problems.
2007-06-14 17:37:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋