If there are any landlords/ex-landlords out there, I 'd love to hear from you of if you have ever been in a similar situation, please give me any insight you can. I signed a 6 month lease with a friend who said after a couple months, would I mind if her boyfriend moved in too? Would I be okay with that? yeah, especially since she said we'd then be splitting the rent/bills 3 ways. Only my name and hers are on the lease and her boyfriend moved in on the first day! I had never met him before and he was pretty nice and all but now I'm getting to know him (and her) a lot more.The bf got a job a month ago and got only one paycheck of about $500 and spent $530 on a stereo! The worst part is I think he quit the job now because he hasn't been going to work for a couple days and before he went the same days every week. We're still splitting the rent only 2 ways because she said he only got paid once a month so could I wait until he got paid? I want to move out but no one'd take my place!
2007-06-14 09:58:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I want to find my OWN place but not totally screw them over. They'd be in trouble if they didn't have me to pay the bills. I also found out the bf doesn't have a bank account or a driver's liscense. I'm uncomfortable living with them and I'm nearing the point where I don't even care if they get screwed. What should I tell the landlord if I talk to him about getting the guy out? I almost want to lie and say I HAVE to get out because of one reason or another.
P.S. I'm in MN
2007-06-14 10:02:17 · update #1
your friend is not being considerate of you...tell her this when her boy friend isnt around...if she doesnt comply tell her he has to go.....most leases state that another person may not establish residence unless they are on the lease. Tell her this and then explain if she still doesnt comply you will call the police and have him removed. Tell the police that you fear retrobution from him for having him evicted. If you live in an apt. complex them talk to the office, personel there might help with the process and can have him cited for trespass if he tries to return.
2007-06-14 10:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by knowledge 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a landlady, but my parents had rental properties for years and years, so I am well acquainted with the subject.
The first thing that stands out is the fact that only two of you have names on the lease. Since that is the case, you can demand that he move out if he isn't going to help pay expenses. Seeing as how he blew his paycheck like a little boy in a toy store, rather than manning up and paying his bills first, I don't know if you are going to get any better behavior out of him. A lot of people, both men and women, seem to think it's perfectly acceptable to sponge off the boyfriend or girlfriend. If your roomie is okay with that, she's an idiot. But in this case, you are caught in the middle, and being taken for a ride.
You can force him to move out. Your roommate cannot do anything about it (i.e. leave) because her name is on the lease and she has to stay locked into that contract. It is sure to make things unpleasant for you, but I have to wonder how pleasant things are now.
You can also try sitting down with them and simply stating that he either has to put up or leave. I don't know, however, if that will be helpful, since he sounds really irresponsible. He might just laugh it off and not care.
Your third option is talking to your landlord or landlady, and explaining the problem. I know that if my mother had faced a similar problem when she had rental property, she would have had a talk with all involved, and made it clear that the extra party must either contribute or leave. It's also possible, if you open a line of communication with your landlord, that you could be released from the agreement (but I don't think that's very likely). That would leave your roomie and her boyfriend stuck in an apartment she couldn't get out of, and for which they have to pay the whole amount. Essentially, you would be moving out and he would be taking your place.
It's a crappy situation any way you look at it. Your best bet is to use the law, which favors you in this situation. Get the landlord/lady involved, and see if you can't, with his or her help, get things moving.
I wish you the best.
2007-06-14 17:14:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bronwen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you should have done when he moved in was insist that his name be on the lease as well, because that would make him legally and financially responsible for part of the rent. That doesn't do you much good now, I know.
Talk to your roommate and tell her you're unhappy with paying half the rent but having more roommates than you anticipated. Tell her that he either needs to put his name on the lease and pay his share of the rent, or he needs to move out.
Meanwhile, start looking for your own place and talk privately with your landlord. Let him know that you would like to sublet your room and move out, and ask if he will let you out of your lease early if you can find a suitable replacement. If he agrees, then you just have to find any responsible tenant to take your room - if your roommate doesn't like him, that's not your problem, as long as he's acceptable to your landlord. Your friend will probably be pissed about it, and you'll lose the friend, but if she can't live up to her original bargain and make the boyfriend pay, then she isn't being considerate of you.
2007-06-14 17:07:49 · answer #3 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, this is the danger of having roommates. I have heard this same story many times from many different people. At least they aren't doing drugs and stealing your stuff to pay for it. At least one of them has a job.
The rough part is that you are kind of locked in with these guys unless you can convince the landlord to let you out of the lease. The good news is that it will only be 6 months. Once the lease is up then get out of there. Try to get place without a roommate, even if that means getting a lesser place.
2007-06-14 17:18:31 · answer #4 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by law, only the people's name on the lease are responsible for paying the rent. You can go to the sheriff's dept and have an eviction notice served on her Bf, then he would have 30 days to leave. But if he started paying up, you could have the eviction stopped. Of course, if you evict him she'll probably move out with him so you'll be stuck paying all the rent and you would be able to sue her for the part she didnt pay. She is still responsible for the rent even if she isn't living there.
2007-06-14 17:08:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you are pretty much stuck for 6 months. I just went through something similar sub letting to a good friend and her husband. They paid their bills on time for the most part, but I found that you should never mix friends with business. They took advantage of us when we asked them to move out because we wanted to take the house over. It took us 5 months to get them out and now we barley speak. Next time if you decided to room mate w/ someone make it a strictly business arangement or expect to get used and foot the whole bill. Get what you can out of them and if it gets real bad and you get burned you can always opt to sue for the amount owed. Just make sure you keep reciept of everything you had to pay as proof. That way a judge can make a determination on how much they owe you.
2007-06-14 17:06:07 · answer #6 · answered by Smarty Pants 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda sounds like they've lied to you as well. Since your name is on the lease , he could be removed by the police, but please confront them first. I pity the position you are in, but I don't know your relation ship with the other tenant as well. Was she a friend before this, and would you be losing her friendship. Try talking things over. They can only take advantage of you if YOU ALLOW IT. The law is on your side regarding the BF and giving him the boot. You are not obligated to support him.
2007-06-14 17:17:27 · answer #7 · answered by onebusy_b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick the boyfriend out unless he is willing to pay his fair share. That would include 1/3 or the utilities also.
This is a financial issue, not a personal issue. You did not agree to this living arrangement when you signed the lease....
word for this guy would be FREELOADER....
2007-06-14 17:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by flyfish_777 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are required by law to notify the landlord of everyone that is living in your apartment. In other words, you have to put the boyfriend's name on the lease. Those of you that signed the lease are financially responsible right now.
2007-06-14 17:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell the girl roommate that her boyfriend either needs to pay up or move out.
Now, if he starts buying groceries or something then maybe... but it sounds like he thinks he's there for a free ride ((did she tell him that? find out)).
You have the right to get him out. Evoke it.
2007-06-14 17:04:09 · answer #10 · answered by Lunar Flare 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋