I am having issues with this as she wants to act them same around each other while we are at work. I am going to be working will really small kids all the way to middle school kids and we will both be together all day. She is mad at me that i say i want to treat her as a co-worker around the kids and other workers rather than my girlfriend? Am i doing the right the or am i insane?
2007-06-14 09:31:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I worked at the same place as my boyfriend, I would prefer that while on the clock, we remain completely professional. It's not disrespect to your parter, but rather respect to your employer. Off the clock, you can act however you want.
2007-06-14 09:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Car enthusiast, think of the complications of acting like gf/bf at work.
1) It's disruptive and distracting to have a gf act like a gf at work. You try to focus on what you're doing, being a role model for these kids etc. The kids might start talking and asking questions and maybe even teasing you about you and Miss so and so sitting in a tree. If you want them to respect you as a professional then you should act like a professional, not like a giddy boy at work flirting with your girlfriend.
2) What if there was a big fight or the relationship ended? Then everyone will notice the coldness and whatever problems that might ensue from a breakup or even just a little fight. If you act professionally NOW, then you won't have to worry about people commenting on how you two act differently towards each other when there are problems... and at some point there WILL be problems. Most couples have a disagreement about something at SOME point.
3) If you are uncomfortable about acting differently at work or her showing you affection in front of the kids then if she truly respects you and loves/likes you she will understand and want to support your decision.
Make sure she understands that it isn't because you don't love/like her, but it's because you want to act professionally and your career should be separate from your personal life.
Good luck!
2007-06-14 09:40:48 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are doing the right thing, especially because you will be working with kids. My boyfriend and I sort of work together. I work in the office and he is an electrician for his fathers electrical contracting company. He is in and out of the office all day and even though we work for his father and he probably wouldnt say anything we still act as co-workers. I am not going to say that we dont sometimes slip up but for the most part we do treat each other as co-workers.
2007-06-14 09:36:52 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're in the right. In a professional setting, especially around kids - who happen to be very impressionable - you should treat each other as co-workers. It's inappropriate in any job to be openly affectionate with a significant other that you work with. Good thinking on your part, and good luck!
2007-06-14 09:35:19 · answer #4 · answered by elana1987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, your not insane. I feel the same way that you do in this situation ( my husband and I worked at the same place).
A relationship is a private matter when it comes down to your job, I 'm sure that your co-workers already know that your a couple...so there is realy no need for public display of affection...so not perfessional.
2007-06-14 09:36:52 · answer #5 · answered by blue moon lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not insane.
its great that you want to treat her like any worker there when you are in the business place. Treating her like she is your girlfriend there will cause some problems. Work and relationships are separate things and should be kept that way.
2007-06-14 09:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by codereesa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i could say I manage each and each guy or woman with equivalent know. If confronted with conflict and taken care of in any different case, I unquestionably do my ultimate to no longer react with anger. it particularly is strictly what purely could reason issues to grow to be uncontrolled. hence, that theory in thoughts, i'm going to turn the different cheek and/or if a risk turn the irate guy or woman around by capacity of exhibiting subject and kindness. Hoping to open eyes to the various many unecessary disrespectful human beings.
2016-10-07 12:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are correct. There is a time and place for everything. The work place is definitely not a place where you want to be all love-vi do-vie with your GF. Keep it professional, it will show your employer that you are mature and that you can be trusted to keep your personal life and work separate.
2007-06-14 09:41:16 · answer #8 · answered by Savi S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my ex and i were dating before we got married we worked together at wawa night shift (convenient store/deli) . We would throw rolls at each other. Of course you probably don't want to do that at your job, with the kids around you and all.
2007-06-14 09:40:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never get your money where you get your honey.
2007-06-14 09:34:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋