im extremely sad cause my little cousin passed away in a fire???????i dont know what to do or who to ask for h

Answer 1

I am a fireman and I have watched this situation many times. there is no instant cure for a tragedy like that. The only thing you can do is take proactive measures in your own life to ensure that your family is safe and that you have learned from this devastation. You should also seek some help from professionals although there is nothing anyone can say or do to make the pain go away. Why not set up some type of scholarship fund or other type of fund in his name to help other children and turn something so horrible into at the least something good for others.

God Bless you, his family and anyone else that hurts

Answer 2

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. The best thing you can do is recognize your grief and understand that it comes from loving your little cousin so much. Try to celebrate the good memories you had with your cousin.

It's also important to recognize the stages of grief so that you understand that your feelings are normal and that the pain of your loss will eventually lessen:

1. Denial. Because it's hard to accept the pain of a loss, you may try to deny that a loss has even taken place and may feel numb. Denial may last a few moments or indefinitely.

2. Anger. When you can no longer deny that a loss has taken place, you may become very angry. The anger may be turned toward the world, yourself, or even the person whose loss you are grieving.

3. Bargaining. You may relive the event, somehow feeling that you must make up for the loss or that if you had done something differently it wouldn't have happened. There may be a sense of guilt.

4. Depression. A feeling of hoplessness may set in as you realize that the loss is final and nothing you can do will change it. You may begin to "let go" of the person or event causing the grief.

5. Acceptance. In this final stage of grieving, you accept the loss and move on with your life.

I hope things get better for you and your family. Take care of yourself

Answer 3

I'm so sorry to hear of your sad news, & I know how much it hurts us. I just lost my little granddaughter & we're all devistated over it,. There's nothing you can do, BUT you can KNOW for sure she is in heaven & she's in a better place than we are. Know you w/see her again. Try to remember all the good times you had w/her, all the fun you & your family shared w/her. Ask the Lord to help you & He will. He'll be rite with you whenever you call on Him. See if you can find a church group to go to & make some good friends there. They w/stick by you every way they can & w/be of great comfort to you. That's about all I can offer you at this time, but know the Lord is always w/you & hears your prayers..He knows what you need when you need it most & just rely on His presence being with you at this time. God bless you all. Also know she is w/you in all that you do & everywhere you go. She lives on thru you.

Answer 4

while you do not give your age - there are MANY outlets available where you can make an appt. to speak with a counsellor for little or no cost
Look in the phone book yellow pages under mental health or grief counselling and call someone and go in and see them. Tell them all about how you feel and why.

There is an old saying that "a problem shared is a problem cut in two"
You will be GLAD that you did !

Good Luck and God Bless You

Answer 5

You do exactly what you just did -ask for help. I don't know exactly what happened, but I feel frightened at the idea of someone dying in a fire, so I think I know how YOU feel. But here are some things you might learn from this:

1) Life is precious. Be careful with yours and with the lives of others.

2) Anything can happen to any of us at any time. So, make the most you can of every moment and take joy in your life.

I hope to hear from you again.

-John G.

Answer 6

I am so sorry to hear that. One thing you can do is talk to your friends and if you are near a church go and speak to the Pastor. He should be able to give you some valid encouragement. Thou you may be angry at God at this point in time, take some time to talk to him. When situations like this arise we asked why did God let this happen and where was he? He knows all thjings best just trust him. i wish I could offer you more comfort, cause i know you are hurting. I will pray for guidance and a peace of mind for you.

Answer 7

Talk to God and tell him how much youre hurting. He will help you and you will have a close relationship to God. Im sorry youre going through this. I hope your little cousin is with the Lord watching over you. One day you will get to see him again. For now, keep is memory in your heart, and its ok to mourn, cry and feel sad.

Answer 8

Hello my name is chelsie and i know exactly what you are going through it 2002 my cousin and her older brothers were in a bad car accident, my father and i were the first ones on scene. The boy's got out but lexi couldn't her seatbelt would not unbuckle. She was going in and out of concousness my dad went and got his hunting knife out of the truck to try and cut her free from the seatbelt we were surounded by the smell of gas. she was starting to come to when the car caught fire i two big men grabbed my dad and got him out of the flames we could hear my cusin screaming in pain.
Now it's 2007 and it's still hard for me to talk about it. I know that she is safe where she is and she will never have to feel that pain again!
God Bless!

Answer 9

go to www.griefshare.org. They can tell you where in your area there are grief support groups that will be able to help you deal with this terrible loss.

I help facilitate one of these groups and can tell you that they help a great deal.

Nothing can, or should, take away the pain and sadness. The support group helps you cope with it by sharing it with others who truly understand what you are going through.

Answer 10

If you have parents you can talk to, that would be a good place to start. Also, if you have a pastor, or if you don't have one, find one. They are always willing to listen. And of course, God is always there and ready to lend an ear. I will be praying for you and your family too!