Is it too late to tell her how I feel?

Question

I found out a married ex-coworker had a crush on me about a year ago. I was very attracted to her but married woman are off limits.

She is now seperated and divorcing her husband.

Should I try and contact her? What should I say?

Answer 1

A year is along time to go back on a crush from another mouth. If she is in the process of divorcing, I say approach her on a friendly basis first and take it from there. Let her sort her mind and her feelings because divorce is emotional and also stressful.

If she has been divorced for a while, contact her to see how she is doing and ask her out for a lunch date to catch up.

Whatever you do, dont move to fast..

Answer 2

Yeah you should totally ask her out, but first you should giver her some signs about it and make sure she likes you back still. I say you should take her out to eat and talk first, then the next time you meet talk to her show her you appreciate her being around with you ( probably for a two more days or a week). Then at the other day maybe give her something sweet or special like a flower or something she likes from her hobbies and all. Then you ask her out if she's ready after the divorce and all.

Answer 3

I too am in the middle of a divorce and I had crush on a coworker I would have liked to entertain. I tried to contact him once but never received a response. It's too bad for him.

It is better to regret the things we do instead of regretting the things we were to afraid to do!!

Answer 4

I would send her a nice friendly email just to keep in contact with her, I wouldn't tell her how u feel about her until shes totally done with the divorce because they are very stressful, but right now i would just take the time to become a really good friend with her...

Answer 5

Too late? Well, for starters, she's still married. Wait for that divorce and then ask her out. But beware! If she had a crush on you while she was married, you might want to consider if she'd get a crush on someone else if she was with you.

Answer 6

if you still have feelings for her you should try to contact her and you should off by asking her how she is doing and make small talk for now and ask her if she is busy and ask her on a date so you guys can catch back up but if she doesn't want to its not your fault maybe she wants to be alone because she just got and divorce but if she does take to a nice place and buy her some flowers be the gentlemen type or be your self how you use to act around her.

Answer 7

I wouldn't try the full-on approach since she's going through a divorce, but you should definately consider taking her out somewhere as a friend/give her some support. Then after you feel her out and know she's ready for a relationship, tell her how you feel

Answer 8

Wait until the divorce is final. What if her husband still wants to be with her? Give the guy a chance to fight for his marriage. Besides, if she likes you as much as you like her then she will contact you when she is ready. Good luck.

Answer 9

I would wait untill the divorce is final. There is still a possibility that they will get back together and try and make things work. What if you were to get attachted to her and she later told you she wants to make things work with her husband?? If she does divorce though i would say it is never to late to tell someone how you feel.

Answer 10

The crush was probably more a symptom of her marital problems rather than any real attraction to you. What she DOES NOT need right now is another guy trying to get some.