Do you think it's okay for my husband and mother in law to be giving my daughter a bottle at age 2?

Question

I disagree with the idea completely because they should be giving up the bottle by 1. She never cries for the bottle with me and drinks from a sippe cup or regular cup. It seems that she only wants it when she is with my mother in law. My husband thinks nothing is wrong with that but I do. What do you all think about this situation? What should I do about it?

I threw out the bottles a long time ago. It seems as though they have her spoiled. She doesn't drink from the bottle all the time but every once in a while when she cries they spoil her with it. Thanks for all your advice people!!

Does anyone know what damage this can do to the teeth? Any helpful websites or pictures perhaps?

Answer 1

You are the mother, take control! Show your husband all the reason behind your way of thinking and tell him unless his mother is going to abide by YOUR rules, she can't have your daughter, unless you are there. Good luck...and by the way YOU ARE RIGHT!

Answer 2

well first of all if u have er broke from the bottle then keep her off the bottle u need to talk to in law and daddy to let them know how u fill bout this and tha t in the long run its hurting the child , she knows g ma and dad will give her the bottle n e time she wants next it will move to other things and when dad n g ma says no she wont understand why she got this and that but cant have that , , at the age of 2 they should be off the bottle , and being potty trained , a child that is walking shouldnt be walking with a pacifier or bottle in ther mouth , so step up after all u r the mom and with your child more than g ma and dad , each time g ma and dad give the bottle ge tup take the bottle and toss it in the trash , and give your daughter her sippie cup

my mom n law had a disagrement on something other than bottle s , sh egot me so up set i ended up telling her , but out she had her own kids and raised them now its my turn to raise mine hte way i see fit and another thing whos hole did she come out of anyway

Answer 3

I would tell your mother in law she has out grown the bottle and she is not allowed to give her one. You can then show her
the cup she can use.

There is no need for her to have a bottle at 2 it can damage her teeth as it will push them back. Your husband like most men doe not have a clue. If your mil likes a bottle then serve her drink in one.

Answer 4

I think you need to gently but firmly tell your mother-in-law your daughter no longer uses a bottle. Perhaps it is easier for her, or perhaps her children used the bottle at this age. It is sending mixed messages to your daughter. I'm sure your mother-in-law wants what is best for your daughter, and it is up to you to decide. Your mother-in-law should respect your wishes. I would have a conversation with your husband as well, and get on the same page. Maybe he has a difference of opinion from you, but it is important that parents be on the same side and letting kids know their clear expectations. Best of luck!

Answer 5

i would tell them how you feel. i do agree because the longer they are on bottle( esp. when they dont need one or even want one) the more likely it is to cause tooth decay. maybe if you were to talk to your doctor about it then you could tell your husband and mother in law no bottles because the doctor says. i mean all parents want the best for there kids but they may not know that what giving her the bottle reallys means for her teeth. good luck i hope i helped you out.

Answer 6

You need to put your foot down. Your husband and mother in law may think it's fine now, but when she gets her permanent teeth in and they see she needs all types of things done, it will be a different story. It is obvious that she doesn't need a bottle if she doesn't take one with you. They are just babying her. You need to tell them that your daughter is mature enough to ditch the bottles and that they need to let go of the fact that she is growing up. It may also cause a problem down the road when she gets old enough to start to divide and conquer. She will see that daddy and gma let her get away with these things while mommy doesn't... you all need to unite and inforce the same rule... NO MORE BOTTLES!

Answer 7

Tell your mother in law that your daughter has outgrown bottles and you don't want her to have them because it is bad for her teeth. Get her a couple of those leak proof sippy cups to keep at her house if she is worried about your daughter spilling it. Tell your husband that it may not be a big deal to him, but it is to you and you feel like his mom is trying to under mind your parenting. He should side with you and tell his mom not to give your daughter a bottle.

Answer 8

What does her dentist say? My kids' dentist wanted them off the bottle by 12 months saying that using a bottle after that could do a lot of damage to their teeth. If she is 2, she should have a dentist already. Have the dentist write down the cons of using a bottle after 12 months and have him/her include the price of fillings, nitrous oxide and novacaine. Present it to your husband and mom in law. Good luck and good for you for having her off the bottle with you!

Answer 9

I think that a bottle is ok... but they have to get her use to drinking out of a cup. Once in a while a bottle is fine, but the try to get her use to a cup.

Answer 10

2 is to old to be drinking out of a bottle. Put your foot down, you are the mother. Or like someone said, throw all of the bottles away.

Answer 11

Silently throw out all the bottles from the house (or donate them to a women's shelter). You are right - no bottles should be used routinely during the day at 1 yrs old... and even less by 2.