My Miad of Honour Just had a nice shower for me, she did a great job. She also asked the other Birdemaides for money and my Aunt who had also had a shower for me was asked by the MOH to bring food. IS this ok? Should my MOH have told me she hated her dress, and that the shoes look horrid? The other girls love the dress. Should the MOH go to the Stagette?
2007-06-14 08:46:08 · 8 answers · asked by bridetobe77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The MOH is not obligated to foot the whole bill for the shower. It was OK for her to ask for money. Frankly, the others should have offered, so as not to put her in an awkward postion asking for the $.
She should not be bad-mouthing the dress, though.
Yes, have her at the Stagette, but tell her that it hurts your fellings that she is bad-mouthing the dress.
She'll stop.
2007-06-14 09:43:23 · answer #1 · answered by Cloee Quips 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maids of Honor let the title go to their head. Mine sucked. She was my best friends and when it came down to it, she left the wedding early and complained the entire time about everything including how much it cost to throw the bachelorette party, and that the dress didn't look good on her.
On the other hand, one of my bridesmaids took care of things that needed to be taken care of without asking and picked up a bulk of the stuff that had to be done without asking. I wish now I would have picked her, but its done with. So my advice to you is to really consider, after all the crap she has pulled whether you want to get the pictures back and see her standing next to you, or if you want someone else standing there who you know for sure is your friend.
If she doesn't like the dress, thats tough luck for her. Its your wedding, your look. You might also want to consider if you want to hear her complaining about it on your wedding day. If that is not something you want to deal with then maybe tell her to step down and have her just be a Bridesmaid (or not at all) and give someone else that Honor. Because that is what it is, an honor. If she doesn't appreciate it, then give it to someone else. The confrontation may be weird and it may end the friendship, but this is the day when you will need all your girls around you to help you, and if she is not going to fulfill that role, then it is better if she is not there.
By al means make sure she knows you appreciate how well she did on the shower, but i guarantee that on your day the last thing you want to hear is how ugly the shoes are.
Good luck and Congrats
2007-06-14 09:21:31 · answer #2 · answered by Fstop11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as the made of honor she has a right to collect funds to contribute to the shower. theres no harm in it. secondly if she unhappy with her dress then try to make her feel comfortable and let her know she looks good. but its your wedding so u have the final say.
2007-06-14 08:50:52 · answer #3 · answered by spadezgurl22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you do not want both. you do not technically even want one, yet usually there is in ordinary words one. you may have 2 although in case you want. i replaced into in 3 weddings this twelve months (such as my personal!). One had no maid of honor or matron of honor, basically 3 bridesmaids. I had a maid of honor and 5 bridesmaids. My acceptable pal had me as her matron of honor and three bridesmaids. you could do it inspite of the indisputable fact that you want :)
2016-11-24 19:04:02 · answer #4 · answered by salameh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, she did get a shower done for you, but i don't think she should be rude about the dress and the shoes. it's your wedding day and you deserve to be happy. maybe u can talk to her about her attitude and do acknowledge what she has done already, but also say how u feel and then, if she doesn't listen, and she doesn't change her attitude, maybe it's time to let her go.
2007-06-14 08:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although she is a Maid of Honor... It is however it's YOUR day not hers.. Tell her Thanks for all she's done, get her and the other wedding party members a nice token of appreciation and enjoy your wedding.... Ultimately, it doesn't matter if she likes the dress or where you go for YOUR bachlorette party.... Have fun and good luck....
2007-06-14 08:57:04 · answer #6 · answered by pebblespro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you were to get with them and decide and they should not have hated the dress. well if there is something else and time well let her pick something else. sad thing.
2007-06-17 17:26:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's okay there is nothing perfect. Yes , invite her let her deny.
2007-06-14 08:50:16 · answer #8 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋