I got back with my girlfriend 4 weeks ago, i love her to bits and i want something special with her bascially a life. I lied to my gf when i first met her that my parents would be ok with me dating an english girl. However i did invite my gf to my house before when my dad wasnt home, she got on really well with my mum and sisters and they were ok with me dating an english girl. But my dad is really religious and he would never let me bring my gf home, and my gf allways says she wants to come to my house again, i tell her she will but how do i tell her that really she cant come cos of my dads religious grounds. i respect my dad and i dont wanna break his wishes, also i dont wanna move out as im only 19 n a student. i go around to my gfs apartment. i love her 2 bits i would defo marry this girl cos my mum wud be behind me, i wud do nefin 2 make her happy. i love her so wat y shud my dad matter ? how do i tell her my dad wont let anygirl come to the house or approve her ??? plz help ??
2007-06-14 08:37:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you just need to ignore your bigot dad.
2007-06-14 08:40:37 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must be honest with your girl friend and tell her that you're really sorry, you should have told her sooner, but your Dad doesn't want her to visit the house for religious reasons - I'm sure she will understand if you explain it carefully. If you two are going to have a good long term relationship she will need to understand any cultural differences which there are between your families.You can go on meeting her elsewhere until you have your own place, since I think it is only right that you respect your father's wishes in this matter - it is his house, after all. I hope things work out for you both - 'the course of true love never did run smooth'.
2007-06-14 08:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you love her and everyone else is behind you, then you shouldn't worry about what your dad thinks. If you really think he would kick you out or that your mom would allow him to kick you out, then maybe you should talk to him about it. Present him with a hypothetical situation and see what he says. If you still think he would disapprove, then be completely honest with your girl. Tell her that until you are able to move out or unless your dad is gone that it probably wouldn't be best if she come over. When she asks why, explain to her that you dad is very critical on people and doesn't like guests over (which is true). Then maybe save up some money and try to find an apartment you can move into where you will be able to establish your own Independence without your dad there to dictate to you on how to live your life.
2007-06-14 08:47:41 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ Rachel The Great ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 19 and I'm not sure what country you are from, but at 19 in the USA, parents have little say over whom their children date....or marry for that matter.... you are already not respecting your dad by dating this girl if your religion dictates that you don't....... I NEVER could understand why one religion was so hell bent on not allowing mixed religion marriages... they work FINE over here in the US... I know PLENTY of people who have had long and fruitful loving marriage with different religions... I would tell your father that you have a friend you want to invite over for dinner ----he will of course see right away she is English but he can't DISLIKE all English because they are not his religion CAN HE? Maybe if he got to know this girl as your FRIEND first... he might be more accepting....but if you TRULY love this girl, you have to decide maybe between your father's beliefs and this girl....your father MAY someday get over it---especially once you produce GRAND CHILDREN, but he may be a real pain about it for a while. Do what your HEART tells you to do....
2007-06-14 08:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by LittleBarb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth about why you can't bring her back to your house. Tell her you hope that over time your dad will come around, but for now he just isn't accepting. Let her know that his opinion doesn't matter to you and that you will be with her no matter how he feels. I'm sure she'll understand.
2007-06-14 08:43:51 · answer #5 · answered by crabbyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all.. tell ur gf the truth.. if she lovs u back,, u guys would find a good way anyway for this problem, be honest with her if u really want her as a wife.. , and hey also u just know this girl for 4 weeks.. so.. that would be kinda unfair to fight fro her with ur dad.. cuz ur dad u know.. loves u in the most greatest way.. so.. just don't ruin everything.. first tell ur gf.. and maybe things works out !
2007-06-14 08:43:19 · answer #6 · answered by persian_ladyyy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-09 05:17:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have left out one key bit of information, how old are you? If you are 14 then you have to do what your father says, right or wrong, he is the one who is responsible for you. However, if you are 24, understand you still live at home, and therefore he is still responsible for you, right or wrong. When you can take full responsibility for your own life, then you can do whatever you want. If you aren't responsible for yourself, then you will always have others who are taking care of you telling you what to do, you can't have it both ways.
2007-06-14 08:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you hear yourself "I'm only 19".Get yourself sorted out and move out ,if you really want this girl then this is hardly as big a thing as facing your old man and his outdated views.Stand on your own two feet and you and the love of your life can conquer anything.
2007-06-14 08:53:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love this girl, you would just be honest with her. I am sure she would understand. Better that way than have dad come home to catch her there and hurt her feelings. God Bless!
2007-06-14 08:46:45 · answer #10 · answered by flirty30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her that your dad is very religious and wont let her or any other girl go to your house when he is around and that your mom and sisters are fine with it. just continue to go to her apartment.
2007-06-14 08:42:39 · answer #11 · answered by giarc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋