My boyfriend and I are moving in a month and he is realizing we don't have alot of money, luckily his family is helping us out with the move but we can't afford things like new clothes for him (they shrunk in the dryer), to fix his car, and he really needs to go to the doctor because he's in a lot of pain because he cracked his rib. <- that's just the background story.
What I really want to know is some quick little things I can do to cheer him up. What does your girlfriend or boyfriend do to cheer you up? I'm just so out of ideas! :(
2007-06-14 08:32:08 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are in a spot that's tough but not impossible to solve.
First - he needs medical attention. Go to the Emergency Room of your local hospital (in the USA) and they must give treatment free if you have no insurance.
Now, why are you moving at all? You can't afford it. Are you being forced to move?
Cheer him up by becoming a SOLUTION. You both are in a mess that needs more help from his family or yours. Or, perhaps you need to get a full time job if you aren't working.
Go to a second-hand store (Salvation Army? Goodwill?) and buy some clothes cheap.
Look in the newspaper for a "buy-here-pay-here" car lot. You'll make payments by the paycheck so you could get some wheels.
Early in my marriage we shared an apartment and car with another couple until we all could afford to go on our own. All of us had jobs. Sometimes it meant taking public transportation to work. It only took six months. If that's not possible, what about moving in with your parents or his for a while?
My wife cheers me up by being my "partner" in all things, sharing the burdens of life, finding solutions together.
Jim DeSantis
2007-06-15 02:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if he cracked a rib he needs to get medical help even if it's from the emergency room, they can't turn people away for inability to pay. A broken rib can puncture a lung and he could die. As far as clothes shrinking in the dryer, try picking him up some clothes, even if it's just a pair of pants and one shirt, at yard sales or Goodwill. My son found an awesome shirt at Goodwill yesterday for 2.50 that looks brand spanking new. See if his family can help you out with a little more right now, at least enough to get his car fixed. Maybe you should put off the move for now and worry about the car. That's how he gets back and forth to work, so that should be a priority. As for cheering him up, just do little things for him like back rubs, telling him how much you appreciate him. Have his favorite meal or dessert fixed for him when he gets home. Think about improving yours or his education to try to get better jobs. I'm taking online classes at CTU and since I qualified for Pell grants, I don't have to pay anything. It's a grant so I don't have to pay it back either. I'll graduate in a year and be on the road to a better paying job. You have to take steps to improve your life, nobody's going to do it for you. Good luck hun.
2007-06-14 08:40:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What about giving him bath or cooking for him or giving him a massage. I usually do one or two when my boyfriend and I have had an argument and I was in the wrong but i think it will be a great way to cheer him up and show him that no matter what you are going through you are lucky enough to be two and to have each other for the way ahead of you. And for the doctor, since it's just a cracked rib, try going to the red cross; they should fix that. Good Luck
2007-06-14 08:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Diva 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only thing that will cheer him up is to have more money. Sorry to say that, but if I were him, that is how I would feel. Think of how to get more money. You are moving, so why not have a garage sale. If his parents are so generous, why not move into their basement or attic for a few months, which will alleviate your need for rent / mortgage and use that money to have him see a doctor and fix his ride.
Actually, he should just go see a doctor anyway. My gf didn't have insurance, but we went anyway and it cost her about $500.00 for xrays, pain meds, etc. So it's another bill, but he has to get better so he can work to make more money, right?
Are you both working? The worst thing that you can do right now is nothing. Doing nothing will only hurt more later. Take action.
2007-06-14 08:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How about having a potluck dinner on the weekend and inviting some of his favorite friends and family for a nice evening together before the move. You organize it and get everyone to bring one simple dish, such as a lasagna, or a salad, desert, etc., plus their own drinks. You can contribute with a dish of your own, something that he really likes. That way, you don't spend a lot of money, but you enjoy a nice evening socializing. And if your place is too small, see if one of his family will agree to have it at their place. Hope that helps!
2007-06-14 08:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by ((♫♥♪♫♥♪♫ Shivers ♫♥♪♫♥♪)) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I know nothing about relationships, and am a complete idiot. With this caveat, let's get down to the root of the matter. He has a mental disorder, which he either HAS not sought treatment for, WILL not seek treatment for, or CAN'T seek treatment for. You love him, but on a periodic basis, he makes you feel miserable. HE feels miserable, and seeks to separate himself from you...on a regular basis! Don't you recognize a theme here? Let's put it another way: he makes you feel like s***, and he can only stand to be around you if he gets regular timeouts from you. It is what it is: this is a toxic relationship. It's not good for you, it's not good for him, and if you keep trying to keep things together because you just *love him too much*, well, you may end up married in ten years, with two kids, and both of you completely miserable. Or he could end up dead. Here's the deal: either he gets professional help with his issues, or you leave him. Make this clear to HIM, not just yourself. I am a Callous Basterd, yes. But you're 23. That's just too young for somebody to be dealing with this sort of thing. Free yourself. I'm beggin' ya. Baby, life is just too goddamned short.
2016-05-20 03:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by darlene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many things to do with no money, and the most important are staying home to watch a movie together, going for a really long walk in a great place, writing letters to each other, making a special simple meal ... the list is endless.
2007-06-14 08:35:57 · answer #7 · answered by John B 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Positive thinnking can produce positive results even if that is the only ingredient in the mix. Stay positive and just dont get into fights by insisting on ones own way all the time (but dont become a push over either). all that should help a lot
2007-06-14 08:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by Whamy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My suggestion is to do nice, little things that mean a lot but don't cost much. At the end of the day, the only thing that will make him happy is for both of you to be more financial sound.
2007-06-14 08:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by David B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh! it feels so depressing listening to you. At first may GOD bless u. Well to a man cumpany means a lot so u stay with him dont let him feel that he iz facing those problems, if u stay with him this will surely provide him enough strength to fight all odds. Try this and have a gud luck
2007-06-14 08:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by shaunak_kat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋