Has anyone wrote their own wedding vows?

Question

Any good suggestions or good guidelines to follow?

Answer 1

yup, my hubby and i wrote our own and didn't tell the other what we were writing so we could be surprised when the other read them at the ceremony. I looked on line at some wedding sites to get some good ideas - there are a ton of them out there as i am sure you know. Anyway, my husband as a gift to me is getting our vows framed so we can always read them. Writing the vows are so nice, it tells what you are feeling instead of what someone wants you to say. Good luck and have fun writing them!! Read them out loud and time yourself and tell him to do the same - it wouldn't be cool if your were 3 min and he wrote something that took 30 seconds :)

Answer 2

People do it all the time. In fact, I did fourteen years ago.

I used a book I found that broke the wedding ceremony down into sections. It explained which were legally required, then gave examples for each part from about a dozen different religious denominations and a couple civil versions as well. Since ours was a civil service, I did a bit of cutting and pasting, taking the parts I liked best from five or six different established forms.

If you're being married in a church or by a clergyperson, talk to your officiant before you start tinkering. There are parts of the wedding service that aren't important legally, but may be considered vital spiritually in your religeon. It's also possible he or she will have some samples of vows other couples have written over the years.

If you're being married in a civil service, the sky's the limit...so long as the legalities are covered. Don't panic. That means basically you have to express your willingness to marry and promise to be married. I believe that's more or less the bare bones of what's required. Again, your officient probably has some sample vows you can look over and use as inspiration.

And you can always Google 'wedding vows' and see what you come up with. You're sure to find at least a dozen sites that can help you write something meaningful and original.

Answer 3

Follow your heart and make promises that you not only find lovely, but more importantly ones that you actually believe and will follow. That's the most important thing.

By the way, wedding vows are a bit like New Year's Resolutions, after a month, no one follows them

Answer 4

You can follow a traditional model for inspiration or range of things to include, but change up the delivery and order or wording. Be sure you are focusing on the idea of committment...what many people forget is that committment is not about emotion, it's a choice. Love is not lust, it is a lifetime and while emotions run wild and following your heart is the best way to go, part of that also involves making choices. Love is selfless and the ultimate way to show that is committing through any and all of life's trials.

Answer 5

I think good wedding vows sum up everything you want to promise to your partners and everything you want people to know - stuff about commitment, fidelity and looking after etc. which is what marriage is about. Good vows make a pledge to each other, not just a statement.
Its lovely for vows to be said with emotion and affection - it can be really touching, but if its taken too far it can get too sickly and syrupy and getting people reach for sick buckets. Remember that people have to watch. I think its good to be emotional but dignified.
Whatever you say, have a lovely wedding and goodluck for the future.

Answer 6

i like the idea of each of us writing our own vows, and my fiance would prefer for us to say the same vows, so we're compromising. i'm going through a lot of different samples of vows for inspiration and writing our own version of vows, and that way we'll both be giving the same vows, but in a more unique version of it.

Answer 7

Yes, I did. I just wrote what came from my heart and it turned out to be great. Everyone else has already said to say it from the heart and that is really good advice. There's really no need to write it down because it's only for you and your partner. If you really feel that you love your partner, you'll immediately feel that what you are going to say is right. Congratulations.

Answer 8

I am going to write my own vows....ha vent the faintest idea what I will do though lol. Concentrate on the love your share and why you love him....share a sweet story of how you fell in love.

Answer 9

I asked my MOH (who is a great writer) to write my wedding vows. She did a great job, she is soo good at writing - it was a real success. If you know someone who's good with words, ask for their help - they'll be happy to assist you.

Answer 10

im getting married in april and wanted to write my own but im not really good at makeing my words right when im tryin 2 say sumthing but i tryed and it sounded good up it was 2 pages long lol who would want to sit threw that long wedding...u can always go to google and type if wedding vows help of take some vows from some and other and put them togeather.... its your wedding so do wat u want.... its UR day no matter wat neones says lol we just let the groom out of it all..lol.....