a lady from my church ,who is also my friend's mother has given me a purity ring. She has given many other youth in my church purity rings but mine was presented in a way different than the rest. (wrapping ,gift box, bow). My question is how long do i wait to give her a "thank you"card and should the card be religiously themed?
Any help would be appreciated.Thanks in advance.
2007-06-14 08:05:59 · 8 answers · asked by cirilia 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Any time you receive a gift, send a thank you card as soon as possible. The card can be religiously themed. either way is fine.
2007-06-14 08:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by 6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a couple of reasons you send a reply to anyone who has given you a gift. The first is that they deserve to know that you actually got it. (This is obviously more true when it is sent, or mailed, or otherwise wasn't personally given to you.) Sometimes (like at a wedding reception) even when a gift were personally handed to someone, you need to let the giver know you really got it--it could have gotten lost, misplaced, or was never opened.
The second reason is to acknowlegde the act. Some people don't "get it" when it comes to giving gifts. Usually the sender uses this as a means to show love, or affection, to the other. To them, it is their way of communicating. So, you immediately learn that the giver sees this as a method of communicating--and by giving them something in return, you "communicate" your love back. It doesn't have to be anything expensive, (which is why a card is often appropriate) but the giver does have a need to get "something" back. A card will suffice.
Third, some gift givers are looking for attention of some sort. If the gift is given in a public setting, they want the acknowledgement to be public. If it is given in a private setting, they expect the acknowledgement to be in private, too.
Your real question was "how long do I wait?" The answer to that is that you don't wait at all. You do it at the first available opportunity--FAST. This shows that it is a high priority to you.
Religous themed isn't necessary. Choosing it because it has "meaning" to you, is. (Religious themed isn't "bad" either--I just don't want you to think that you must send a religious themed card because you know her through church. It's okay, just not required.)
The link below is a reference to acknowledge that some people speak "different love languages" than others. Gift givers seek, expect, and want to hear your acceptance of their gift in words they can really understand.
2007-06-14 15:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lorenzo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a cool thank you card just for her with angels on it.
Also, a nice red rose would be great.
Give it the very next time you see her.
I will be frank here in saying if the ring was over $20 or more then I would give a thank you card, however if it was mass production given to all and less than $10 then no card or flower is in order.
2007-06-14 15:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think if she picked you out as special, then she should be thanked. She deserves it since not only did she give you a present but she took the extra effort to wrap it, etc. You should probably give her a thank you note the next time you see her in church. And sure it could be religiously themed but no need. It could just be a plain thank you card. I'm sure she will appreciate it.
Good luck!
2007-06-14 15:13:54 · answer #4 · answered by Melanie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You send a thank you note as soon as you have a reason to be thankful. In this case, it's when you received the ring. I hope you wrote and sent a note within a day or two of receiving the ring.
That would hold true even if the ring were just handed to you; having a bow, etc. makes no difference.
2007-06-17 18:07:42 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just pick a thank you card that suits her. if shes very religious, she would probably really like a religious card. also, dont just sign it, be sure to include a note saying thank you and mention the ring specifically. also mention how it made you feel that she gave it to you and maybe a compliment someone has given you on it. if you really want to impress her, send a picture of you wearing it. either way though, send it ASAP, it loses meaning if not received right away.
2007-06-14 15:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send it ASAP. I would also choose a card that is most suited to your taste. I have ones that are lavender in color with my initals embossed on them that I use for everyday generic thank yous. But, if you see a religous themed one that strikes your fancy, go for it!
2007-06-14 16:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by zippythejessi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
send it right away, and just give it as any other thank you card. i guess you could add a little religious symbol if you want.
.hope this helps.
2007-06-14 15:21:46 · answer #8 · answered by insert name here 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋