When a friend betrays you?

Question

so deeply that you lose all trust in mankind, how do you get that back. If ever?

A family "friend"had ulterior motives...knew this person for 5 years.

AND I got the "I told you so"s from my husband.Even though he was fooled also by him.We thought of(and treated)this family like they were our family.

Yes,I do blame myself. Should have seen the signs, etc.

I was literally stalked by this person, so I don't want to say too much. But I could write a book about it. Seriously.

Answer 1

Bear in mind the other friends and family you have in your life that HAVEN'T betrayed you. Trusting anyone always comes with some measure of risk; but you can't live a wholesome life as a socially well-adjusted human being not trusting anyone. People are fickle, and always will be... you can't always tell in advance who the jerks are going to be; but more often than not, your gut feelings about people are usually true. Don't let one dirtbag destroy your remaining faith in the greater mass of decent people.

Answer 2

A couple years ago my roomate and best friend had an affair with my boyfriend. I know very well the pain. I cant say you’ll ever get back what you lost. There are times I forgive my now husband, and former friend. I just look at the good that came of it. I learned a lot about myself. I had an experience that’s made me stronger, if a little colder. And they had a beautiful baby out of it, and who could ever begrudge the birth of a baby? While I lost my friend in the process, I don’t love her any less, she was like a sister to me then and I am still concerned for her welfare. That being said, the trust isn’t something that comes back right away. I questioned everything for a while, and still don’t trust anyone. It’s been three years, and I forgave the both of them, but I trust them not at all, and that is something very hard to face. I hope you are able to overcome this.

Answer 3

I've had some friends betray me in the past but finally I learned my lesson. I know it really hurts.
Gods Word says:
Prov 4:23
23 Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
So I guard my heart. I do have friends/acquaintences but my husband is my best friend here on earth (even though he has failed me and I have failed him being we're human).The only person that will never fail you and you can totally trust is in Jesus.
Psalm 146:3
3 Do not put your trust in princes,
Nor in a son of man, in whom there is no help.

Think of it as a growing learning experience. Ask the Lord to help you forgive them bc unforgiveness/bitterness over a period of time weighs someone down and isn't good for our soul.

Here's a Father's Love letter for you from Almighty God to encourage you.
http://www.fathersloveletter.com/flltextenglish.html

Here's a nice song to praise the Lord.
Worthy is the Lamb
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=esjbikgv2aI

I hope you feel better.

God Bless you!

Answer 4

My advice is not to let yourself lose trust in mankind. Have you lost trust in your mother/father/sister, etc? There's always someone that you can still rely on. Don't let the person that betrayed you get the best of you. Be strong, don't lose faith, and give yourself time. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 5

Even a friend is just human Hun. Let it go, because we can't change what has already happened. There are lots of good people out there waiting to find a friend like you. Come on. Up you get. Start again. Blessings to you.

Answer 6

You just realize you are actually better off without them. They are a bad seed and no good. Your life will be better and improved without that person. In fact they did you a favor. Still trust people. Not all people are bad. A lot are, and boy do they put some masks on, but you just have to learn to be able to see through those. You will be just fine. It takes time to move sometimes too.

Good luck to you!

Answer 7

I am going through something similar. I just say a prayer for them at night. That's all you can do. I am still down and out about my friends betrayal. I just had to consider the source and keep moving on. God says to forgive those who persecute against us. I know I have to forgive her, but I'm not capable of it right now so I pray that God will forgive her for me and that he will take the anger and hurt out of my heart.

Answer 8

It would help to have more details than that, but in general I can tell you that the bible teaches that you shouldn't put faith in mankind, only in God. Mankind will always let you down. Chance are your expectations were too high. I'm not saying that everyone is a jerk, but everyone will let you down sooner or later, in a big or small way. Even truly good people with the best of intentions.

Answer 9

You realize that the rest of the world isn't that one person. That your life will go on and you'll change and so will that person. In time neither of you will feel the same as you do now. The hurt doesn't always go away, but never let one person's mistakes rule your whole life.

Answer 10

We are all humans and people will fail you but you cannot allow one person to take away your power. It is better to put your trust in God than your confidence in man. Don't be weary of doing good pray and ask God to give you the light bulb moment and He will. With God in the picture someone will stumble if they are not good for you.

Do not blame yourself all you did was trust someone and treated them with kindness. they took your kindness for weakness, and that was their problem not yours.