i had a fight with a friend, and she suddenly lashed out at me. she told me that my beauty is not as classy as hers, and i look like ur average hooker because of my pouty lips, big eyes, cheekbones, long dark hair, somewhat petite body with a womanly figure. stuff that are usually means for compliments are being used against me. she brought up numerous friends who i flirt with and hug that either have a girlfriend or just broke up with their girlfriend. i dont have feelings for them in that way they are just friends. she thinks i have comitment problems since i never had a boyfriend. she said that she sees me oneday going to a classy party dressed in a revealing dress going home with some guy and then i get killed in the morning or something like that.
2007-06-14 07:32:50 · 14 answers · asked by 1 + 2 = CHICKEN! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the thing is, she is kinda right,i never had a bf and i always attract the wrong type of attention, older more sexual men come up to me. i dont even dress like a slut. i dont think i am even that beautiful, just average. but she then said i get looks and stares everywhere i go, and they are nasty stares too. she thinks my innability to trust people and my mysteriousness wil cause me to become a hooker. based on all this, is she right? what do u think in general about me and my friend and my future?
2007-06-14 07:33:00 · update #1
i am in college right now so i finished school, and like i said i do dress conservitivaley, i dont flirt around or sleep around i am not a s l u t.
and i like my hair i dont wanna cut it i shouldnt change who i am
2007-06-14 07:38:08 · update #2
look i dont plan on being one i am just asking do i seem like one, do u think i look like one?
2007-06-14 07:42:47 · update #3
I think your 'friend' is mean, jealous, and thoughtless. Sounds like she or someone close to her have already been discussing this.
Why would you value her judgement over yours? Have you dated much, or even had sex?
1] good looks of some girls frequently frustrate the others.
2] does she have a steady guy, and has he said something about you?
3] does she think people get killed only at classy parties, and
do all the girls get killed?
Keep your conscience clean -
a] dress appropriately - not too much cleavage, too tight, too short, or too shear
b] makeup parents would approve of
c] hugging hello, goodbye, I'm sorry, is appropriate - hugging in response to tacky remarks isn't.
d] You can talk to whoever you want - but don't hang on arms, do random touching, play with your hair, etc. with guys who are taken. If you aren't flirting with a guy, don't talk/ act any differently than you would with a girl.
Maybe you can get a mutual friend to intervene - apologize if you were wrong or said something to hurt her feelings, but she should do same.
Good Luck! Have fun, be safe, and be good!
2007-06-14 07:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by Nurse Susan 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you gotta have more faith in yourself and work on your confidence. You can be anything you want to be in life. You seem intelligent by the way you write so I am sure you can have a fulfilling career and have success in it, not a hooker!!
Never talk to this person again, first of all, she is jealous and only wants to bring you down. She's not a friend, she is an enemy. You don't need her, drop her like it's hot.
2007-06-14 14:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
being a teen...i can say i dont think you'll be a hooker. Older men hit on me all the time so dont feel bad. Some of us just look older than we really are. I look 22 and am in my mid teens. thats just the way things work
2007-06-14 14:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by codereesa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That girl is not your friend. Obviously, she's had these thoughts about you all along, but she kept them all inside until you had a fight. I don't know what you look like, but you're much classier than she is. I don't think classy people go around calling other people hookers, or fantasizing about their so-called friends dying. Cut her out of your life!
2007-06-14 14:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by naf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like your friend is just being a b**** because she was upset! you drescription of yourself souds very pretty and not prostitute like at all! i think you should talk to her about what she said and try to get to the bottom of y she said that! you canhug and flirt all you want to,just dont sleep with all of them......that would make you a prostitute, there is a differance!
2007-06-14 14:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Becky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your friends wrong. Maybe she's just jealous. To change this you could cut your hair and dress more conservativly.
2007-06-14 14:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by wutsup? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem pretty comfortable with the idea of becoming a ho...look, you know yourself better than your friend does and you know what you like, how you feel and stuff.She doesn't know all this. If you don't like this idea, you should avoid situations that lead to weird sexual experiences or stuff that a ho would do.take care
2007-06-14 14:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by teen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If all you have is fu*k buddies and not a bf then maybe...j/k. I think the only way you will be a hooker is if YOU want to be.
2007-06-14 14:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by *Angie* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend seems jealous of you and she's trying to make you not feel so good about yourself. Love who you are and tell your friend to shut up.
2007-06-14 14:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by tnca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dunno who your friend is, but apparently she doesn't ahve much tact nor delivery when it comes to addressin issues. I can't see you, so i can't tell "what u look like" but i'm sure you've heard the phrase, 'don't judge a book by its cover!" you can make exactly what u want outta your life, so whether you become a lawyer, or a femme fatale is up to you.
2007-06-14 14:38:31 · answer #10 · answered by platinum66 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋