Okay, I was just on the phone discussing Celebrity Fit Club on VH1, with my boyfriend and he mentioned that although one of the women on the show had lost weight, that her weight was still "pretty thick" for her height. (I believe she was 5'5" and 130lbs.) It hurt my feelings because I'm 5'4" and about 120-125lbs. I am very active, I work out all the time, and only look like I weigh around 105-110. I don't know how to discuss this with him, because I am uncomfortable with my own weight, and feel if I tell him how much I actually weigh, he will think I'm fat. I always lie and say I weigh less because I look like I do, but it hurts when he calls people thick who are close to my actual weight. What should I do?
2007-06-14 06:28:09 · 17 answers · asked by Amanda W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's obviously saying that because he doesn't know that your real weight is close to that. He didn't do it on purpose. But you should really be honest with him. If he thinks you're fat, then he doesm't really like you that much.
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2007-06-14 06:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ღαsнℓэч vαиэssαღ♥™ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't worry about your weight. You're at a healthy weight for your size, and if you know you're healthy, the numbers aren't what matters. Also, remember that if you work out a lot, you're probably muscular, and muscle weighs more than fat.
Your boyfriend probably has no idea what he's talking about when it comes to women's health. From my experience, a lot of guys weigh less compared to their height than girls do. He probably wasn't trying to be insensitive. If you look a lot smaller than the woman on T.V. he probably didn't even consider that you two could have similar weights.
Although his comment upset you, I don't think that was his intention. My advice is to not worry much about it, unless such topics come up again. In the meantime, read up on women's health and weight issues, so should the need arise, you'll be armed with enough knowledge to tell HIM what "thick" looks like.
2007-06-14 13:40:34 · answer #2 · answered by corny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it sounds like you may have some sort of unhealthy problem with yourself! I really think that you may benefit from talking to a counselor about self esteem issues..
Second, I am telling you, by NO means is your boyfriend even comparing you to any other girl on T.V. Guys can just be sorta insensitive about somethings. Don't let those comments get to you... I wouldn't even bring it up honestly. Just remember, he chose YOU to be his girlfriend... no one else. To him, you are beautiful in so many ways, and I am sure that he would never intentionally say anything that would hurt you.
2007-06-14 13:41:54 · answer #3 · answered by life_love_livin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell him your weight and he acts sour about it then he is a HUGE waste of your time anyways he should like you for you and not care about anything like that. If he has never mentioned a problem to you before about your weight then Im sure its nothing big to him and he likes you the way you are so I would not even mention it to him if I where you. And also if you feel you need to lie to him about anything because of how he might feel about you afterwards then maybe he is not the one you should be with anways;
2007-06-14 13:32:58 · answer #4 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't lie to him. he currently sees you as thin, right? So you think that just by telling him your real weight, he'll suddenly think you're fat?? well you know what? If that's really the case, you should get rid of him fast!!
Someone of your height should weigh in between 122lbs and 140 - that's the healthy weight for your height. (I;m the same height and weight as you and this is what my doc told me)
2007-06-14 13:33:06 · answer #5 · answered by B2B2008 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you tell him how much you weigh and he has a problem with that then he's not good for you. there is no need to lie about your weight if you look good and stay active
2007-06-14 13:35:23 · answer #6 · answered by jakester2199 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you dont confront him, just remark on occasion that those people that are "thick" are beautiful before he says that they are fat. But if you confront him it may be a ticket to get your feelings hurt and start a fight that relly could easily be avoided.
2007-06-14 13:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Memes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him know how much you weight and if he leaves you, then he is shollow. you sound like you are in shape and that is a good weight. he cant handy a girl with a little meat on her bones. bd
2007-06-14 13:34:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
next time he says something like that just say ''so if i was to weigh that much would u not like me'' or ''they look fine'' to c what he says
2007-06-14 13:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by blah! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he said thick not fat right so don't worry, & i'm sure he love you no matter what
2007-06-14 13:33:21 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋