If you knew a girl liked you and you liked her and that you knew she was really shy but she made a move to talk to you then you made a move to talk to her and you sort of hinted about the movies but she didn't get it and then ignored you the next day....(out of shyness) would you give up and feel rejected?
and would you find it weird if she emailed you asking you to go see that movie you were talking about? a couple of days later? (even though you had really only talked a couple of times but had a class together?)
2007-06-14 06:27:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Initially, yes. I would have assumed that you lost interest somewhere when you didn't answer about the movies.
The email would have gotten my hope back.
Here's what I recommend...
Cut and paste your question and send it to him.
Shy people just have a rough time getting started and this question explains the problem.
2007-06-14 06:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose I would have felt a little down if she didn't pick up on that I wanted to see a movie with her and if she ignored me the next day - but I would feel down because I though I blew it not because of her. Then I would be very happy if she e-mailed asking me to go see the movie.
Send the mail and good luck!
2007-06-14 13:35:20 · answer #2 · answered by remowlms 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very convoluted question that you are asking. It has a ton of assumptions that, at your level of maturity, are patently false.
A married (adult) man is pondering an affair with his secretary. He only knows a little of the secretary, so the details are filled in by his imagination. In comparing that secretary with his wife, he is too stupid to realize he is comparing the best of his imagination, with the worst of his very real, very understood wife.
Mature adult men, who are NOT raving lunatics, NOT on hormones, NOT totally ignorant of women, and NOT surrounded by the pain, madness, and pressures of high school cant figure out whether the person with whom they want to betray their wedding vows is real.
You, a girl, theoretically older than 13, but apparently still in the early teen level of madness about boys, are expecting the impossible. You are expecting a teenage boy to be able to tell the difference between the you he imagines from the you that you really are. His mind is filled with two significant things: insecurity, and hormones. He is not yet a man, but something in him drives him to hunger to be honored and admired. He is not adult, but is not a child, he has no solid place for his identity. He will fight with his strength to be admired, and to be a mature man, but his greatest weakness is his heart. He is vulnerable, and can sense it, and wants to protect himself, especially his heart. The worst message he can receive is that he will never be strong, will never be admired, and will never be an adult. He lives in a culture (think MTV, and playboy) that tells him that a primary function of women is the pleasure of men (ahem). They are treated as gloves, and when the pleasure is over so is the relationship. Those huge forces in his life fire the imagination of his heart.
If he is insecure, and feels rejected, you want him to still be able to determine that you are shy. I dont think he can. I dont think he is wired for it.
I think that he thinks you are playing games. He may (or may not) be interested in playing those games. He may not even feel rejected, just fear it, for it to be enough to make him back off.
2007-06-14 13:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be made into an awfully complicated situation here. No wonder you have young kids jumping off of bridges at the drop of a hat.
2007-06-14 13:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would piss me off a little if she ignored me and it would make me think she doesnt like me.
it would be kind of weird if she asked if i wanted to go to the movie because i thought she had rejected me. i would still go with her though
2007-06-14 13:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by big john 8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up,
If you are old enough to date you should be mature enough to talk to him face to face and tell him you think that seeing the movie together would be fun.
2007-06-14 13:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by bmcbrewer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him out of nowhere and ask him your question.
It will be romantic and exactly what i would do.
if he likes you then he'll be truly relieved!
if you think that you2 can work, trust your heart and take my advice... and if it works with yall, and a issue comes up, think older, dont ask for adivce from total strangers like myself, and be brave enough to handle it for yourself!!!!
GOOD LUCK! =]
2007-06-14 13:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would like you to be honest. Nothing's weird when it comes to love, never be insecure about nothing!
Ask yourselve what's right and what's not, you'll do just fune!
Bye now!
2007-06-14 13:38:52 · answer #8 · answered by Mark V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt be hurt. you said you dont talk, so i wouldnt notice, i dont think. i would be sort of freaked out if a girl asked me out and we didnt talk that much. i'd be nice and say yes, then try to get to kno her for our movie 'date'.
2007-06-14 13:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by Vivi's Daddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first u don't succeed try again
2007-06-14 13:30:48 · answer #10 · answered by cones2210 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋