i am a christian girl an i believe that being married is special an i only believe in getting married once an everything should be shared but i guess his past relationship with his ex girlfriend ended in child support an now he has trust issues he is always saying that nothing comes for free. the bad part of it is that she planned this whole thing of getting pregnant an leaving him but , poor me is left picking up the peices. i think its unifair that i have too pay for what that girl did too him an yet the whole prenup is just a peice of paper. But it goes agianst my beliefs an the bible.
2007-06-14 06:07:01 · 46 answers · asked by sparkle7 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
day two: he feels that he has too protect himself an he feels that when he pasts away i wouldnt get a dime on the will cause he feel that i am young an i can get remarried that he needs too give all his money too his parents. i think that is unifair cause if we have kids in the future there not entitled too anything i'm not after his stuff i can careless i just strongly disagree on the prenup an if i signed it . it will go against my my whole presonal beliefs . i know the whole prenup thing does not say in the bible in bold letters prenup is not allowed but it does say that we are to become one. When it comes too love there is no such thing as protecting yourself you either give your all or nothing at all. Indeed i do love this man an i just cant get it thru too him that you should not let materlistic things be tween us.
2007-06-15 03:42:27 · update #1
day two: he feels that he has too protect himself an he feels that when he pasts away i wouldnt get a dime on the will cause he feel that i am young an i can get remarried that he needs too give all his money too his parents. i think that is unifair cause if we have kids in the future there not entitled too anything i'm not after his stuff i can careless i just strongly disagree on the prenup an if i signed it . it will go against my my whole presonal beliefs . i know the whole prenup thing does not say in the bible in bold letters prenup is not allowed but it does say that we are to become one. When it comes too love there is no such thing as protecting yourself you either give your all or nothing at all. Indeed i do love this man an i just cant get it thru too him that you should not let materlistic things be tween us.
2007-06-15 03:42:29 · update #2
he wants a prenup for his protection. An i feel that when it comes too love there is no such thing as protecting yourself.Let alone we cant even protect our own personal feelings for someone else when it comes too heartbreak. I know it does not say in the bible in bold letters there is no prenup but, it does say we are suppose to become one. He feels that when he past away cause he is in the military that i will not be entitled too nothing on the will that it will be too his parents an family an that is unfair cause if i had a family with him in the future my kids will not have anything but it will be under his parents discrestion an now tell me that is not unifair. Yes indeed i am in love an im not after is materlistic stuff i want too come up with a compromise or a solution but i have ran out of ideas we are suppose to be attending pre marrige counseling an i dont know how that is going to work out.
2007-06-15 03:59:47 · update #3
What? If he had a child with an ex a prenup has NOTHING to do with child support! You tell him that. AS a biological parent he cannot have someone sign a prenup to make it so he wont have to pay for any future children that you may have.
So his ex had the right to get child support out of him and no prenup can change the law that parents must financially support their kids til age 18. So dont sign it. He sounds like an a**!
Explain to him that you will not sign anything so either he takes you as you are or you are thorough.
2007-06-14 09:08:11 · answer #1 · answered by Educated 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Where in the Bible does it ban a prenuptual agreement? If you are certain that you are going to be married to this man for the rest of your life, then the prenuptual agreement is essentially moot--it will never come into play unless you break up. And, if you do break up, you will b gald to have an objective way to divide your assets. I think the man has a right to protect his future, because you never know what the future holds. You're not paying for his/her past unless your intention is to marry this man and then divorce him and take all the assets. His wanting a prenup doesn;t mean he loves you any less, it just means he's a sensible and practical man.
2007-06-15 02:56:47 · answer #2 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You take out insurance on your home, your car and your life,etc, in the hope you will never need to use it but you still have to do it. Just think of the prenup the same way, it doesn't have to be a negative thing. If you work it out together it could actually make sense. Should the worst happen, you are both covered so have your say too and make sure you are both happy with it's content before you sign it. It doesn't all have to be about what your partner could lose if you split, protect your own interests too. Don't be too hard on him, but if you really feel it's a trust issue, you need to think long and hard about the relationship and resolve these problems before you marry. Good Luck to both of you.
2007-06-14 08:28:38 · answer #3 · answered by ANDREA A 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well speaking as a male I understand the Prenup thing from a different angle than you. Its a comfort thing on the guys end but it also tends to raise red flags from the female side as to his lack of confidence in the marriage lasting. You need to understand that everything that is earned after you are married is 1/2 yours. Its completely understandable if he has excess amounts of real estate or a large company or just a ton of cash. He wants to feel protected knowing that your not with him for his assets and this is a way to expose what really matters to you, "Him? or His Money?". This goes both ways though if he is just being greedy and hes choosing his money over you. This is a very touchy subject and I have seen a TON of engagements end VERY quickly over this subject matter. All anyone can say is good luck and you truly have to make this decision from your heart without anyone else telling you what to do..
2007-06-14 06:17:49 · answer #4 · answered by Hunter 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Girl... The bible says nothing about prenups. A prenup is like wearing a seat belt when you're driving - a precaution against an unlikely event. "In god we trust" - but we still wear a seatbelt, just in case; there's nothing wrong with prenups if you do it right, and with understanding of what it is. Humor him and pay a visit to a lawyer, have him explain to you how it works. My husband and I were looking into getting a prenup before we got married, we went and saw a lawyer - but it turned out that all of our concerns were already addressed by the state divorce laws; so we decided to forget the whole thing. I'm sure everyone who gets married wants their marriage to be special and forever; just as everyone who gets into their car in the morning wants to get to their destination safe and sound. But divorces happen, car accidents happen. It is a fact of life. Be optimistic, but realistic, and don't make a mountain out of the mole hill. Congrats.
2007-06-14 07:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Honestly, I disagree with pre-nups too because when you get married, its forever. You are supposed to have 100% trust in the person before you marry them. Yeah I can understand celebrities getting them because of how many times they get married, but If he is going against your beliefs and the bible, then he is not your man. I know you might love him dearly and all, but in the end its going to hurt when HE leaves YOU cuz something isnt good enough for him. It sucks that you're left picking up the pieces, but I certainly wouldnt marry a man who asked for a pre-nup cuz its all about love and trust and honestly, and if you aint got that... you aint got nothing.
2007-06-14 11:49:38 · answer #6 · answered by mannasox 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well if you've slept with him, you've gone against the bible already. I'd just give him the prenup, either way then, you never know how a relationship is going to work out. The rest of your life is a long time, to work hard through 10 years of it, for the two of you to seperate on bad terms and having to deal with money or possesion difficulties.
2007-06-14 06:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by xlukexmartinx 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you're going to be together forever, the pre-nup won't matter. Read the prenup he wants you to sign. If there are parts that you feel are unfair to you- should divorce happen- then ask him to remove it. If you're not comfortable with something tell him. Hopefully you can work out a compromise.
2007-06-14 09:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by K S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not un Christian to have a prenup...the act of divorce is. You will share everything while you are married n should anything go wrong he wants to make sure he is not taken for all that he ahd before you were together. Youll share things you aquire while together but its a smart idea for either of you. Women are startig to request these now also...thanks to Tom Lykas.
Make sure the agreement is fair. If he wants you to be a housewife then the agreement should include a certian amount of money for every year you are a homemaker...etc.
2007-06-14 06:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by E L M S 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
If you think the marriage is special & know it will last, then why not sign it. A prenup has nothing to do w/ sharing during the marriage... only of how things are to be divided if the marriage ends.
2007-06-14 06:37:06 · answer #10 · answered by dani77356 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋