For those who don't know me I'm a boy.
As most of you know I've just lost my girlfriend a couple of days ago and I just feel like a total loser. Hardly no girls like me and the ones that do dump me after a few days and I just hate everyone at the moment especially myself, I see guys going out with girls just for looks and the size of there breasts but I look for personality and looks but it never seems to work.
2007-06-14 05:55:13 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If your going to comment on the avatar **** off as my profile says I don't take **** from no one.
2007-06-14 05:59:09 · update #1
Oh no sexiest fools answerin either
2007-06-14 06:00:47 · update #2
I don't show that I hate my self
2007-06-14 06:01:32 · update #3
dude if your a boy u better change that avatar
2007-06-14 05:57:13 · answer #1 · answered by GA 5 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Maybe where ever you are meeting these girls is the wrong place. Try a new place to find new girls. And think about how are you with these girls. Maybe a little sad still or maybe over excited to have a new girl. I mean if you mope around and are always down or talking about sad things or badthings that have happened sometimes they just don't want to hear that. Dating someone new should be fun and happy not sad and down. Try to cheer up the right girl is out there for you somewhere. Just be patient and let it find you. I'm sure enough girls out there like you for some reason, so whatever attracted them to you in the first place stick with that. Besides maybe being good looking you have something about you that they liked to even go out with you in the first place. You know I read your other questions from before and it sounds like maybe you are turning these girls away maybe not letting them in and get close to you. Maybe it's something within you that you need to figure out. The whole girly thing you've mentioned a lot. It sounds like you may be a bit confused about you life and feelings. Which is OK. Especillay at your age. I would have to say most people go through things like this to some degree. You'll eventually figure it all out. Just be patient with yourself. I mean teen years are the years to figure things out, hormones flying everywhere, and new things happening all the time. Just let things happen and don't worry so much.
2007-06-14 06:03:40 · answer #2 · answered by Laura M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear about your loss. I am in somewhat of a similar situation being as though I do not have a man. Just look at it like this. Maybe you are alone because God hasn't sent the one for you to you yet. I try to look at every failed relationship as a learning experience. Don't mean to get religious with you but maybe the universe or a higher power is preparing you for your future wife. Maybe you have to go through certain things so you can lean everything that you will need in order to have a successful relationship.
I say love yourself. Don't hate yourself. I know it's hard not to because you feel that you are to blame for your situation. I've been single for almost a year and yes you do get lonely but think about it at least you're not worried about whether the relationship will last or if the other person is cheating.
Being single helps to clear your thoughts and it should build character. Maybe you should get a hobby.
There's hope
2007-06-14 07:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Heaven26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been down like that too. Just sit back and take a breather. When you are not looking, is when the right person will come into your life. As long as you are worrying about it, you may end up settling for less than what you want. When you relax, and realize that only you can make yourself happy, then you will be able to be happy with someone else. It is all about being in control of your own life first. Good luck.
2007-06-14 17:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound young sweetie. You have an incredibly long life ahead of you full of other loves, other relationships, and other experiences. Don't let this one bad heartache destroy how you feel about love or keep you from seeking it out in the future. Destiny has a way of bringing people into your life when it's the right time - don't try to force it. Just keep your chin up. Know that time will pass quickly even if it doesn't feel that way now. And one day you will look back on this time in your life and just laugh at how seriously you took everything.
2007-06-14 06:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very commendable that you know already what you're looking for, most people don't for a very long time (including the ones who dump the good ones). Don't give up hope, there's always someone new around the corner, and you will be a stronger person for the experience. Incidentally, I love the rain, it's a good excuse to sit and play games on the computer and have some "me" time.
2007-06-14 06:00:42 · answer #6 · answered by Siobhan W. 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't be sad, with every good bye you learn and it only makes you stronger. You're going to go through a lot of relationships before you actually find "The One". I've been in 6 long term relationships and now I finally found my husband. It took me 13 years, 6 losers and a divorce to finally find the right person. I know how you feel about the lonely situation TRUST ME. My husband is away and he'll be away for a whole year. It kills me. I'll be your friend, you can email me when ever you like.
2007-06-14 06:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm good at self pity. Get yourself some music by Staind - its the best for being depressed to. In fact I'm listening now! (sometimes its good to feel down a while and get it out the way)
Anyway on the plus side, it sounds like you have the right attitude when it comes to girls - maybe you've just been unlucky so far. Everyone has someone out there for them.
Chin up son.
2007-06-14 06:00:51 · answer #8 · answered by Lino 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow you kind of caught me off guard with your avatar. Anyways what you need to do is stop feeling sorry for yourself and get the hatred out of you heart. Feeling sorry and hating everyone just makes it worse. Remember there is someone out there for you, let it happen when it happens. You need to make friends before you can be friends. Change your attitude about all people, think positive and always smile. Your love life will change, you just need to have patience, it doesn't happen over night.
Good Luck!
2007-06-14 06:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by nascarfan31 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a friend who thought the exact same thing. you know you'll find better girls if you're NOT LOOKING because you’re giving off this vibe that if a girl gets close to you they'll know you'll like them instantly and that just scare them off. don't know why but lots of girls stayed away from him. so maybe you should stop searching and just make some friends.
oh yeah in the end he stop caring and then he found someone to love and they been going out for a year. true story. so cheer up.
2007-06-14 06:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by Karrie_Poo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy a kitten and an umbrella.
Girls like kittens.
They also appreciate a guy who can keep the rain off their heads.
Broaden your definition of "good looks." After you've been with a woman for a few months, she'll be beautiful, no matter what you intitally thought about her "looks."
Even if you don't get a girl, the kitten will be good company and the umbrella will keep you dry.
2007-06-14 06:10:03 · answer #11 · answered by Ray Eston Smith Jr 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋