My long time friend & i are pretty cool its been times he has tried to make a move on me but i think it was just for his pleasure now he says he wants to be commited to one girl & settle down I have some feelings for him but my feelings are more sexual then mental. (oh & he is known for having alot of girls on his arm) IDK if hes true or not he tells me he likes me & that he wants me but Im not sure if hes saying it to just get me to have sex with him, can sum1 help me plz?
2007-06-14 05:43:43 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most crushes involve an element of lust, and with the surging hormones of your teenage years, it's very difficult to tell the difference between emotional attraction and physical attraction.
Whatever you decide to do with this guy, be totally honest with yourself and with him.
-If you just want to explore the physical side of things, make sure you're honest with yourself about what extent you're comfortable with, and about whether or not you can separate physical connection from emotional connection (and whether you want to separate them).
-If you want to have a commited relationship with this guy, be clear with him about your expectations. Tell him specifically what you consider cheating and how you will react to it; tell him specifically what you are comfortable doing sexually and what you would rather wait on.
As a general rule of thumb, if you have doubts, listen to your gut. A decent guy who really likes you won't mind waiting for sex, and you should never need to use sex to keep a guy's attention or affections.
And as a general caveat, don't have sex if you're underage, and if you do have sex, be sure to use both birth control and condoms every single time.
2007-06-14 05:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Crush and lust are pretty much the same thing.
This sounds like you want to have a sexual relationship with him to try and get more - like a relationship. If he's "know for having lots of girls on his arm" then it's definitley a warning sign.
I would take him at face value, and not expect too much from him. Have a fun time, but don't get too involved.
2007-06-14 12:45:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like he wants you to add another notch under his belt. You are aware of his history with women and I would think that is why you only like him in a sexual way. You are completely aware all he is good for as far as you are concerned. I suggest you just take your time and watch his efforts towards you. If he really put some effort in a romantic and not a sexual way towards you, then perhaps he really does like you.
2007-06-14 12:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy Shut Your Mouth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From the description of your "long Time Friend" it appears that he is, for any reason, is not set to have a stable relation at this stage. I would put my money with your assumption. I think you still need to wait to allow your friend the opportunities & time to prove his saying.
2007-06-14 14:02:06 · answer #4 · answered by anaghs2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test him. Tell him you like him too and want to try the relationship thing and see where it goes. DO NOT GIVE HIM ANY!!!! See how long it takes him to press the issue. If he waits, then it means he really wants to be with you for you and not sex. If he presses and presses the issue and then decides to end the relationship because you won't give him any, there's your answer. Good Luck!!!
2007-06-14 12:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you said long time friend, that most probably its a crush .. unless he's been having different thoughts about you and not really considering you as ( just a friend ) ..
BUT i believe that healthy relationship doesnt start with an intercourse .. the moves ur talking about show lust ..
2007-06-14 12:49:34 · answer #6 · answered by Meamz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would wait a little more and really think about things before you make a final decision. Think about him long-term. Is he worth your heart? What has he been like toward other girls?
2007-06-14 12:48:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is a long time friend and you trust him as a friend, I would believe that he really is tired of being friends and wants a relationship. But make sure he knows if he screws you over he'll regret it.
2007-06-14 12:46:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Guys like that only want sex. Believe me, I knew a guy who told a girl "I love you" just so he could have sex with her. A few days after they did it he called her and broke up with her. No joke.
2007-06-14 12:47:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
UHM YEAH...MOVE ON SWEETIE...HE WILL END UP HURTIN YOU IN THE LONG RUN! THERE ARE SO MUCH BETTER GUYS OUT THERE FOR YOU! AND YOU COULD JUST BE FRIENDS WITH HIM. AND HE IS JUST GUNNA WANT PLEASURE THEN HE WILL LEAVE YOU AND MOVE ON! SO JUST MOVE ON!
2007-06-14 12:48:00 · answer #10 · answered by [.ℓove&happiness.]™ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋