ok theres this guy who i sometimes have sex with (no relationship) (casual sex if u want to call it that) were just really gud mates but theres this guy who i really like but hes kinda shy with me but i think hes found out ive been having sex with my friend would this have put him off getting to know me? plz help im abit upset about it
2007-06-14 05:37:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't even worry about it. You have had sex with other guy & that can not be taken back. If the new guy can not deal with ths, move on. And don't assume there is a problem, because they probably is not. He probabaly likes you too & is just too shy to let you know. So go break the ice, tell him he is cool or some other such thing.
2007-06-14 05:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Flying_James 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are single and not sleeping with anyone else, so I would say you have done nothing seriously wrong. However if you are really interested in this shy guy, you had better stop the casual sex and see if you and the shy guy have a chance.
2007-06-14 05:45:33 · answer #2 · answered by KAT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, personally i would be rather turned off knowing that a girl was having casual sex with one of her friends. chances are if hes shy all around and not just with you then it may bother him that you are just having casual sex with a friend. perhaps get to know him better and try to better understand what hes thinking on the subject? hope this helps.
2007-06-14 05:41:41 · answer #3 · answered by csspamz1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop having sex with your friend so you can check out this other guy. I'm not saying that having a "booty-buddy" is a bad thing, but having that relationship continue while trying to pursue another...chances are, the person you are trying to get to know will not approve. End it with "friend" and try something new...if it doesn't work out with the new guy, then you and "friend" can pick-up where you left off.
2007-06-14 05:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Ma'am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those are the consequences of your actions. Having meaningless sex with a "gud mate" can make other men see you as a undesirable, or unattractive.
If the new guy knows you're screwing someone for "fun"-- he knows all he wants to about you and has no desire to know you better.
2007-06-14 05:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it may indeed have put the shy guy off. it may reveal a very different set of values. values are important--i don't mean to say you were wrong in your behavior--i mean you and the shy guy may just be too different. personally, it would bother me--just because sex to me is so personal--not just a physical release--and to treat it so casually reduces it somehow. ask yourself honestly whether it would bother YOU if his values were so different that it bothered HIM you having such casual sex. seriously--not that i think either position is wrong--but can create alot of friction in a relationship--you wouldn't want him throwing this in your face. still, perhaps he doesn't know--but all the questions still apply. good luck
2007-06-14 05:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by quiet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, very much so. If you don't like the response, then stop having casual sex. Most guys don't dig girls who are also sleeping with someone else. Especially shy guys, as they are more prone to have insecurities.
2007-06-14 05:40:43 · answer #7 · answered by brandonb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This probably made him think that you were committed to your sex partner... But, if there was some way to let him know that your are actually NOT committed, that would really motivate him to get back on the tracks that lead to know you better...
If he's shy, use sex as an ice-breaker... It really helps the shy.
2007-06-14 05:44:22 · answer #8 · answered by etherberg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, yes. I'm in that same casual sex boat. I like this ship, but I'm not expecting to join monogamy land while I'm sailing the seas.
2007-06-14 05:41:26 · answer #9 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amazing....simply amazing. Short of prostitution...where are the women who just want "casual sex" or..as someone else put it..."friends with benefits"?
2007-06-14 05:48:06 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋