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Question

My Father passed away on April 22nd (this year...see other open quesiton I have on here)....I am so dreading this day...yet, I have dreaded EVERY day since his passing....I so hope I die myself before Sunday....I always took Dad out to eat seafood (his favorite...at his favorite restaurant)...I will NEVER be able to eat there again or go back........LIFE IS SO UNFAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

It's difficult enough to enjoy life...everyday problems...(jobs..bills) but to know the end fate is the saem for all of us...older/dying..so ridiculous!!

PS
I have no children...thankfully.

Answer 1

Was there a question in that statement?

You should go to that restaurant. Do you have children? If or when you do you should take them there. Tell them stories of their grandpa and how you would always take him there. Start your own father's day tradition with your children. It will make you feel better. I'm sure your Dad will be looking down and smiling to think you didn't just give up on him.

Answer 2

You have two options on Fathers day.
1) Avoid it like the plague
2) Celebrate his life and his time with you.

If you avoid it, then it will be nagging on you and you'll be trying to avoid it forever.

If you celebrate it, then it honors him.

Tell a friend, or a sibling, or your mother that your really having a hard time dealing with father's day. Tell them that you want help honoring who he was. Maybe pick that day to make a scrap book of things you did together and pictures. Tell each other stories about what was great about him. It will make you sad, but sometimes it's ok to be sad.

Then, as an honor to him, live your life in a way that will make your dad proud. dying before sunday wouldn't make him proud. But if he could see you do something that he loved to see you do. If he could see you succeed at like, then that would be a great honor to him.

You might want to talk to a friend or a psychologist about your feelings about him. When something that horrible happens it takes a LOT to get over it. It's easy to fall in a hole and never get out (emotionally)....so you need someone that's there at the ledge with you that can keep you from falling. You will always remember your dad. You'll probably think about him every day. But, it's ok to get over the raw emotion of the pain.

Answer 3

it hasn't been very long at all since your dad passed--my dad passed on in 1994 and i miss him just like i did that year---its not a feeling that ever goes away BUt time does make it better...believe it or not it might take quite a bit of time but it will get better eventually--every holiday its really hard for me and i have a hard time sometimes seeing other people with their dads and especially people that don't appreciate still having their dads around--this Fathers day--if you have a memorial area to go to for him--bring some flowers and sit awhile and visit with him--some people don't believe, but i talk to my dad all the time and i think that he hears and if you pay attention to life from now on really closely you will see signs that your dad is around--that takes some time too but it will happen--im completely sure that he wouldn't want you to be hurting and sad and upset all the time on holidays and fathers day--he would want you to go on and live your life always remembering him and letting him know that you do--try some books by Sylvia Browne--she has a lot of insight on these issues--if you believe-- if you would like more information about that email me and i would be happy to hook you up with some materials that might help you out--i hope things get better and I'm sorry that you are going through this hard time--hope Ive helped you out a little bit and good luck!

Answer 4

I am sorry for your lost. I also lost my father about 5 years ago and then I lost my mother 2 years later. You have to be tough, hang in there and no matter what, just do the best that you can. Both my parents loved chinese food, we use to all go. I am probably alot older than you but now I can go to the chinese restaurants and remember all the good times that we had. Remember time is the best healer. Try to stay positive.

Answer 5

I'm sorry you're going through this. I can relate as I lost my sister some time ago and I still have a hard time with significant dates for her. The way that I deal with it is to find a way to remember her on those days. I talk with relatives and remember things about her and I sometimes visit her grave and place new flowers and things. I often spend time there praying and talking to her. Find a way to honor and remember your father. Visit the cemetery. Possibly take a relative or friend to your restaurant and reminisce. You'll think of something. I'm sure he wouldn't want you to go through this. Try to celebrate his life in a way he'd enjoy. Think of a way to make him smile on Father's Day from where he is now. :)

Answer 6

My Father passed away two years ago to, on July 11,I was very very close with my dad ther isnt day that goes by I dont thing of him or wish her was her! On this Fathers Day! I Looked to heavens and said Dad Happy Fathers Day I love you and miss so much, and I know some day I will, see you a can! And I cryed, and I knew that my dad would say life goes on kid! I,ll see you soon! I Love you Too!

Answer 7

OOH Baby, I feel for you and that's the way life plays life it's cards unfortunately. you see I lost a loved one last year and the first anniversary of their death I didn't think I could cope, but I made it through. You see maybe going back to the restaurant with a loved one like your wife or girlfriend as an annual thing will help you to cope in a better way, this is one of your memorable and happiest moments with your dad so use it as your therapy!!

Answer 8

hi dear this is part of life... every person born here has to die one day...
and u should not be feeling so depressed... i know it's difficult not to feel so but as i said this is part of life...
and just because sunday is father's day u should not react like that...
do u remember ur dad only on father's day??? i am sure it's not like this...
u must be thinking about him everyday and every moment...
ur dad is really lucky that u think about him... some people think about their dad only on father's day or some not at all...
and some people were not fortunate as u to have agd dad like u...
to make this sunday very special i would suggest that u pray for him...
do something special in his memory and try always to keep him alive through ur thoughts
and prayers... he should always be in ur heart... physical presence doesnt count so much...
do what ur dad expected from u, fulfill his dreams and make him proud of u...
whether he is here or not he will always be ur dad and if u feel depressed then his life, love for u
and everything he did for would have no value at all... for his sake u have to be brave and confront life and live it well...
gd luck dear... and cheer up...

Answer 9

A parent's death is hard to deal with. It is good that you had such a close relationship with your dad. It has not been much time and I have a feeling you have not dealt with your feelings in a positive manner. It is hard but you have to deal with them as soon as they surface. The places and events that you shared with your dad are happy memories that you need to keep with you. The places themselves are not bad. You can go to the restaurant, order a meal and remember your dad. And would he want you to be feeling this way? hopefully he would have passed some life's lessons to you that he would want you to remember.

Answer 10

Never say never. When you are ready, going back to that restaurant is probably a good idea to remember and enjoy the times you spent there. Your father will always live thru your heart and memories.