How can you say homeschoolers have never been out in the real world!!!?

Question

I think it is just rude when people say that homeschoolers have never been out in the real world. Like what is the "real world"? I am not living in some "fake world". Just walking down the street anything can happen, not just at school. Give me your opinion. Thank-you!

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HOw can you say I havnt been in the real world? you never know if i have been to a public school. I have been to a public school for 8 years! And I know what its like to hate. I am not bringing hate upon others, I just asked a quesiton. Thanks

Answer 1

Its not like us home schoolers stay at home 24/7! I am very involved in my church, soccer team, and softball and I am close with about thirty girls that are not home schooled just from those three things alone. I have to deal with real issues even in my church and I'm not ignorant. Believe me, we get drama in our teen group whether we're home schooled or not! I am living in the REAL world no matter what all you people think. And I am not socially deprived! If you get involved with sports, home school class, or get into am ISP you will not miss anything! There are even schools for home schooling families. Yes I do think it is very rude for people to say that we've never been in the real world, because the truth is we have! We just do school at home....

Answer 2

I'd like to see a true definition of the Real World. (LOL --- every person will have a different description of what it means!!) As far as I know we are all in this real world together. Is it the common perception that the real world begins when you are done with 12th grade? So, real life in the real world isn't about weighing 6 pounds and sleeping in a cradle? My newest little grandbaby is the real'est thing -- she definitely ain't no plastic dolly!!!! Her world is very real. It is the same world in which 2 yr bro' and 1 yr sis' are living -- and they are very real too. The real world for my 23 yr son is just like everyone else in the work-place. He gets up in the morning, hits the road and supervises his crew --- he brings home a paycheck. This has never been a problem. He is a great communicator with his boss, his customers, his work-crew, his wife, his children, the bank employees, the grocery store workers... everywhere that he goes he is living, breathing, working and playing in the real world. Hmmmmm.... get this ----- he was homeschooled from K through 12. The REAL WORLD is not something that we are waiting to find. It is here right now. It is all about today. Everything that we do, say, and see IS in fact the real world. Home-school is indeed our real world. It is a super way to live and to learn. Learning should be for a life-time -- not just in a "pretend" manner for 12 years. Learning is not something that stops just because you graduate. Learning goes on every day -- every new thing you hear or see is a lesson learned. Home school does not need to be a strange unknown phantom'ous "idea" that is the subject of constant debate. Home school is a very real, workable, fun, and productive avenue of education.

Answer 3

I think homeschoolers live in the real world. Since when is a public school setting the real world. Unless you are living on some other planet (or think you are, lol) you are living in the same world the rest of us are. And if the real world is highschool, I missed the memo. As an adult, I have never been given a swirlie by my coworkers, never had my employer say you cant work here you aren't popular enough, don't use my status as a retired highschool cheerleader to get a good job, I went to public school my entire life and I know I was less prepared for "the real world" than my kids who are homeschooled. They live in the real world, they have real life opportunities unlike their public schooled counterparts. My older children 10 and 14, both own their own businesses, can hold an intelligent conversation with kids and adults alike and are intelligent responsible human beings. They may be less prepared for life as a teenager (unlikely but possible) but that's a very short part of ones life, then you move into adulthood. That's the real world!

Answer 4

people say that homeschoolers have never been out in the real world because its generally believed that social skills are learned in school and that if you have never been then you would not know how to function when you had to get a job or go off to college. But thats not always true, since homeschooled kids are ususally[not always] placed in afterschool programs or summer programs or classes that are not academic where they can learn those same exact skills. So the only people [NOT only homeschooled people] i would say have yet to experience anything would be the ones that are completely shelter by their parents. i.e all they do is get up have the teacher come or go to school and sit at home with their parents, running errands and stuff.

Answer 5

My very good friend homeschooled all 4 of her children, the youngest decided he wanted to spend his last couple years at public school, other than that they were completely home schooled through high school. Her children all graduated well ahead of the curve, starting college at 16, and they are all well behaved, and mature young people for the most part, the entire family is lovely. They belonged to a coop, where each mom would take turns teaching a class according to her specialty, they would meet there once a week, and then be home shcooled the rest of the week. For gym credits, they all had to join local things such as little league or wrestling. The gist of it is, that being home schooled didn't mean they were shut away from the world. People who don't know you have no right to say anything of the sort to you. There is a perception on the part of the public that homeschoolers are mainly religious types who wish to set themselves, and thier children apart from the rest of the world. I will grant that the family above is Christian, but they are lovely people, the parents are both intelligent and well educated, and the mom is well qualified to teach. While they started out teaching all thier children at home, the kids were allowed to choose if they wanted to go to public school, and only one has, and is graduating early. I also know a homeschooling Mormon family, and thier children are all well behaved, respectful, and articulate. The public has this sort of perception about homeschoolers, because you don't see the more or less normal people who do it, you hear stories about all these fringe types from the fringe communities, fundy Christians, various far out Pagans who think they have indigo children, Survivalists, etc.... Some of these folks really are intent on shutting thier kids up away from the world, and I know a Pagan family that is like that, where mom pretty much tries to keep the kid to herself for the most part, little scary, that.... but
by and large, most homeschoolers are more or less normal people, and I think that although religion is a motivating factor, our public school system is way underfunded and understaffed, children do have a better opportunity to learn when there are fewer kids per teacher, and there really are many reasons besides a religious motivation or a concern of what influences thier children might find in school, the quality of education availble is a motivating factor, and homeshoolers have to be attached to a school, and have to meet certain standards in order for thier children to get enough credits to graduate. More often than not, they exceed the standards asked of them, and are offered plenty of reasons and opportunities to interact with other people's kids at sports leagues and such. You're correct, it is rude for people to say things like that.

Answer 6

I am homeschooled, and I have 15+ friends. I have social skills just as good as any other student, and a way better ecudation. I'm 15 and i'm doing college-level mathematics, biology, and English. I'm a lot more thoughtful than some of my publicly schooled friends. One of my friends didn't know that sunburns don't show up as brightly on darker skin! Now.. that's just plain logic right?
I am very social. I'm in a homeschool group that does a lot of cool things, like go-carting and going to the movies and all that good stuff. I also take a bunch of classes for the arts so I get to meet all sorts of cool people from different places and have different form of education. A lot of publicly schooled kids only learn how to talk to their peers. Not all sorts of different people around them. Every adult i meet say that I'm the sweetest girl they've ever met. My mom gets lots of complaments on me. lol.
I know a homeschooled girl who's level of intelligance is higher than most adults and it shows strongly!
There only one world. There is no "real" or "fake" world. It's all just "the world". There's no "right" or "wrong" way to live in this world. Just like there's no right way to dress yourelf. You don't go in a specific order "Pants before shirt". You just dress yourself in the way that seems most logical to you. I hate it when people who know nothing about the world of homeschooling automatically begin saying terrible things about it.
I find public school to be far more isolated than the homeschool world. Everyday you're trapped inside this huge building, with a bunch of people around you. School really shouldn't be a place to "hang out", it should be a place strictly for education. I rest my case.

Answer 7

I was in public school up til 8th and now im homeschooled and im in the 11th ive been in the real world and i cant stand it when ppl say i havent i thank god everyday that im not in public schools to much drama and i agree what is this some fake world..

Answer 8

I think it is rude and uneducated for people to judge home schoolers by "the neighbor of my friend's uncle's boss"
I work for the public high school. I home school my son.
All home schoolers that I know are very social. As a matter of fact, the social part is what got my son in trouble when he was in public school. The teachers really don't approve of the socialization during class time.
People who judge and say we are not in the 'real world', watch way too much TV.

Answer 9

Big Bobby Clobber

First: Public School is not the real world. In the real world you are not clumped in with people the same age as you with basically the same backgrounds and the same opinions.

Homeschoolers are much more likely to live out in the world. Because it takes fewer hours to finish the academic side of education homeschoolers have more time to do other things. Also, because they do not have a built in system of extracurricular activities they have to go looking for them (in the real world) which exposes them to people of much more varied ages, interests, cultures, and backgrounds than students attending public schools. This is a much better representation of the "real" world than what one finds at a public school.

Second: Socialization does not equal social skills. Socialization is a process of creating artificial conformity which leads not to good social skills but a narrowminded viewpoint of the world.

Social Skills are the practice of treating others in a respectful way and finding ways to work together despite differences in thought, personality, manner and dress, etc. This is definately not what is learned in public schools. Homeschoolers on the other hand tent to learn these types of lessons well, because they are out in the "real" world.

Not to mention that numerous studies and surveys of employers and Institutions of higher learning show that homeschool graduates tend to do better socially in college and in the workplace than their public school peers.

Answer 10

Those who say that are ignorant. It's clear from their answers!

"The problem with homeschooling is that the students never learn the proper socialization process that takes place in a group environment. "

So... until mass schooling became available, people never knew how to function properly in a group? Oh, thanks, good to know. {rolling eyes}


" HOMESCHOOLERS HAVE NEVER DEALT WITH OTHER GIRLS OR BOYS IN SCHOOL. LIKE WHEN YOU TOTALY HATE ANOTHER GIRL. LIKE MEAN GIRLS. ITS LIFE "

So, hateable people are only in schools? And the only chance to interact with other boys and girls is in school? Uh huh.


"It's about interaction with other kids and people. They don't learn how to deal with situations until they are exposed to it."

Translation: "I think homeschooled kids stay home all the time [because surely that's what I would do if I homeschooled my kids]."


"It is the socialization process that is the real point of high school. That is what home schooling cannot provide. "

And I'm sure they test your social skills to get your diploma, right? And why should homeschooling not provide the socialization process? Did you stay at home all the time while homeschooled? Then shame on you and your parents! High schooled homeschoolers *I* know are among the busiest kids I've met precisely because they are doing things with other people sooooo much.

" It's hard to socialize when all you really talk to is siblings and your parents"

{dying of laughter first} Here's the real question: WHY do people believe that homeschoolers stay at home all day and don't do things with other people????????????

And here we come to the real crux of the matter: because we have spent soooooooooooooo much time growing up in public schools, too many people have processed that as "real" ("normal"), which makes the different not "real". This is psychologically called perseverative thinking and indicates an inability to consider other options, see other possibilities. It is, incidentally, tied with a whole host of problems/disorders, ranging from ADHD to anxiety and mood disorders, negative dispositions and more.

Answer 11

Hahaha yah - I never thought that homeschoolers were not in the real world, whatever that is supposed to mean. Public school is not the real world, that's for sure. I think people might just mean that you don't have as many social interactions on a day-to day basis (which may or many not be true, I wasn't homeschooled so I have no idea)... but it's not like you can't join sports teams and take art classes or join 4-H do whatever else you do for social interaction.