My boys will be 4&2. Should we have seperate parties or together? We live 2 hours away from fam?

Question

The oldes will be 4 on 8/16 and the youngest will be 2 on 7/5. Will it be BAD to only have ONE party?

Answer 1

That's a very large span between birthdays, I think that they should have seperate parties.

Answer 2

My older two are 2years 8 days apart. Until my daughter started school (5) I had their parties together. Then we started a fun idea that the kids loved(and miss now @ almost 25&23)where I took my vacation time from July 10th to July 20th (my daughter07/11 my son 07/19) and we'd celebrate for those 10 days. On their birthdays they could pick what they wanted to do. But on the other days we'd find lots of fun stuff to do. Now that won't work for you because your children are almost a month and a half apart but maybe you can do what I did have one big party until the oldest starts school say somewhere around the 3rd week of July, but on the actually birthday have just a small party with family only. I suppose that would work when they are older to. Just a suggestion. Good luck. Have fun which ever way you decide to go.

Answer 3

No it's fine to combine them for a large family party. But I would do a small celebration at home for each kid on their own birthday - a little cake, etc. There's nothing wrong with teaching kids at a young age to share with each other. They will not turn out bad by learning that they are not the center of the universe at an early age. I had to share mine with my sister who is 10 years older than I am. I accepted it growing up and didn't have a problem with it. Plus, it was always right around Christmas so we got the short end of the stick anyway. I think it helped me learn to think of other people more. A birthday is a fun day, but there's no reason to make a huge deal out of it, it's not like people put a lot of effort into accomplishing living one more year (unless there's a medical issue here). I say keep it fun, moderately special, but don't spoil the kids by making a huge deal out of it every year with giant parties, expensive gifts, etc. Have you seen "My Super Sweet 16" on TV? Yikes! You don't want to raise one of those bratty monsters!!

Answer 4

I'm a fan of doing things for kids separately because it makes them feel a little more special on "their day" AND it gives them a sense of individuality. HOWEVER, I'm not a very big fan of a party for every birthday, either. Just have a party for the 4 year-old. The 2 year old won't even associate the party being for the 4 year-old, hence no hurt feelings. Not to mention all the presents the 4 year old gets, the two year old will probably play with anyway. One party for one kid. Make the oldest feel super special on his special day!

Answer 5

I came from a large family...six siblings, all married and with at least two kids each. Then add on parents, grandparents and close relatives and our birthday calendars were insane. We had monthly family celebrations where we celebrated all the birthdays for that month at once. It was easier on everyone, especially since some people did have longer to drive than others.

I see no probloems with a joint party for your two boys, especially since they are so young. I would have one party with the whole family at a poing between the two birthdays. On their actual birthday, I would have an in home celebration...their favorite dinner, a cake and gifts from you and Dad. As they get older, you can always have "friend" parties on actual birthdays and still keep families as one big picnic in the summer!

Answer 6

If you want to invlove your family its not a bad thing to have only one party my daughters love sharing there birthday and they are 7 and 4 born on 11/16 and 11/28. They are at an age when they don't know the difference. I know when mine get older I will have to have to different parties but for now they seem to enjoy it.

Answer 7

It wouldn't be 'bad' but your four year old might feel put out and your two year old won't really understand. You could have a party for the eldest and a just a birthday dinner for the two year old. Do really think its a good idea to have a joint party or are you just trying to save some time and money?

I would'nt have them together but you know your children and I don't, do what you think is best.

Answer 8

No it wouldn't be bad to have them share a birthday party. I assume you will still be something special for them on their actual birthdays. Birthday parties are alot of work and can be expensive so I think it is a great idea to combine them and save yourself time and money.

It is nice that you are thinking of your family that lives 2 hours away. I hope everyone shows up for the party and you all have a great time.

Answer 9

Even if their birthdays were on the same day you should be having seperate parties for them. They deserve to have their own celebration, and a day all about them. Birthdays are a chance for children to be the star for the day, get lots of attention, gifts, be sung to, fussed over, etc. If they have to share the limelight with someone else, it loses its magic.

Even though your family lives far away, you must still make the effort to do two separate parties. It doesn't have to be a huge event, just cake and candles, a few friends (with mothers at that age), tea party, etc. Don't deny your kids a special day because of convenience.

Answer 10

Since there birthdays are so far apart, I think that you should pick a date in the middle of them and have a big party with all the family who lives far away. However on their birthdays have a small party with you guys and a cake, so that they can feel special on their days.

Answer 11

Definitely have the party for both at one time. It is considerate to your family and the kids will not mind! Believe me, I have cut back on the parties , they can be overwhelming for you and family . As long as they get their own presents, the kids won't care if they share a party! If you want to do something special for them on the day of their birthday, let them pick a place to go out to dinner or play on that day.