A question for the men (mature men please)?

Question

Do men find women in ther 30's attractive or old? If you do find women in their 30's attractive what attracts you to them? I am in my 30's and Im in good shape and feel I am hanging in there but I am always scared I will be left for a younger girl, my man if we watch TV or are out in public he will always make a comment like "damn" when he sees a younger women and he even wants me to get him the "Girls gone Wild " videos and I know there are women in their late teens and early 20's in them. It just hurts my feelings becuase Im not that 20 year old anymore. Id like to know from a mature man what your opinion is about women in my age group maybe Ill feel better about myself with your responses. Thank you

Thanks everyone for your imput, I understand men look thats part of life but to make comments when your standing right there is hurtful. All your answers made me feel alot better. :)

Answer 1

certainly you are still attractive.
much more so than 20 somethings
beauty is enhanced by grace and elegance which "g's gone wild" leaves lacking. little beauty in a meat market.

Answer 2

Being a man myself, we as men in general do like to look at younger women, that's our nature.

For me, mature woman are Very Attractive and Knows what they want.
They possess that special something that's hard to explain.

The next time your husband makes some comment on some younger woman, you should return the favor and make a comment on a young handsome man and see how he reacts to it.

Maybe it's the thought of how things used to be when you were a little younger and he looks at them and wants to remember the feelings he had when the two of you met.

Try wearing some sexy lingerie for him and some reveling clothing when you're out together, show some skin but not slutty looking and watch the heads that YOU can turn.

He may then realize what he has and get turned on by it!

Answer 3

By the time you're in your 30s, you've got much more to offer than looks! You're refined, you have some life experience and wisdom, you can carry a conversation, you've got job experience and probably a career...it's a different kind of appeal!

Looks and appearances are such a small part of the BIG picture when it comes to actually loving someone. The person inside will not change, and having someone who is honest, reliable, strong, and just plain 'cool' will always win out over looks alone.

Plus, there's a reason why they call them your 'dirty thirties' - you've probably got some experience at the ways of love, and that's something special unto itself.

Stop worrying about your man leaving you for a 20-year old. If he's a real man, you've got nothing to worry about. If he's an ***, then you're not losing much if he does go. The younger girls look good, but that's all they have going for them. Use the wisdom and life experience you've gained to your advantage, and remind your man how naughty a girl in her thirties can be!

Answer 4

You're with the wrong guy. Yes, guys notice attractive women of almost any age. We usually don't verbalize it when we're on a date or with the girlfriend or wife. That's rude and disrespectful. We certainly don't ask, in any serious manner, for our girlfriend, date, or wife to buy 'girls gone wild video'. This guy is doing you no good.

A woman isn't attractive because she's 20 or 30 or 40. A woman is attractive because she believe she's attractive. Yeah, women in there's 20's make the centerfold in Playboy. A woman in her 30's could be as well. If you add the experience and maturity of a woman in her 30's, I'll close the Playboy and be with the 30 something.

The only thing you have to worry about is your choice of men.

Answer 5

Well I am older than you but I have always liked younger and older women. I have been told I love women. But your man is really rude. Women of all age groups are attractive. But some guys just like younger women. You should tell him how it makes you feel to hear him talk about younger women. He is probably older than you, and he is not so attrative to the younger girls. I bet you are a very pretty woman. Don't buy him the video. He is being a jerk.

Answer 6

I'm in my mid 40s. I have found women in their 30s attractive since I was in my late teens, depending on the women. There is a reason the term MILF was coined. It isn't the mere fact that a woman reaches her 30s that should make her cease to be attractive, it should be about her attitude, personality, physical appearance (do I get maturity points for not putting that first?) and whether or not she has transitioned from her trampy twenties to her dirty thirties or become a middle-aged house Frau.

Answer 7

OK...
I am in my late thirties..
When I was 24 I was with a woman 36...
and this lasted 10 years....and I still have no regrets..
No I am with a woman 44 and I don't want any younger...
Guys who drool over young girls and watch Girls Gone Wild are wasting any intelligent woman's time...
As a woman ages if she takes care of her body and mind she becomes twice as sexy as any young airhead...
I am a good looking guy and I choose an older woman every time for the combination of life eperience and sensuality of a life lived.
.....You are probably a beautiful woman with so much to offer...
I wish I had a picture of you to give you more of an opinion of your assets...but from what I have read you sound just great....gary

Answer 8

I'd wonder about a "man" who wants to get a "Girls Gone Wild" video when his woman isn't into it. Its one thing if you guys are going to watch it together.... another thing entirely if he wants it for his "alone" time.

I am on the tail end of my 30's... and I find that I am attracted to women of all ages. My fiance' is 2 years old than I am and I never think about it unless she brings it up. Frankly, I don't care what the age is, you know?

Your man might just be sorta thoughtless... disrepectful when he stares at other women in front of you. To me, real men don't dis their women like that.

Maybe you need to consider the nature of your relationship... find someone who will respect you for you.........

Just a thought.

Answer 9

Trust me many men do find women in their 30s attractive. And it's also normal to have a little crisis. I might be a little concerned about the comments from your guy. But typically if a guy is having real thoughts about other women he knows he's wrong and doesn't do it in front of his gf or wife.

He's more likely feeling comfortable enough with you to say those things. I don't say it the way he does but I have pointed out women to my GF and she's done the same many times and neither of us feel threatened.

Answer 10

Mature women are attractive, not just physically but mentally as well. They've gone through the wild party life and have come out alright and are doing something with their life now, whether it be raising a family, career, etc. My main attraction to a mature woman is her maturity, it is a major turn on.

Answer 11

You need to step back and understand that for men there are the women they love and the women that make them go "damn". We are simply hard wired to be sexually aroused by women who are at the beginning of the prime of their child bearing years. It is, after all, what keeps the species going.

The fact of the matter is he looks to you as his partner, he only looks at the 20 somethings because biology won't allow him not to.

Take heart, God has given older women the last laugh. He endowed the younger ones with the power of speech. However the most insightful thing that most of them can come up with is "Oh my god! That is sooo cool!..". For a life partner I am much happier with my mature wife that I would be with a 20 something.