My father really doesn't like to dance. What can we do for the father/daughter dance instead?

Question

He will do it, if I really want him to, but I hate to make him that uncomfortable. My fiance' and his mother are definitely doing their dance. I'm thinking about just having a song 'dedicated' to us, but I don't know what to do while its playing. Any ideas?

Answer 1

There is no rule that says you must dance with your Father at your wedding reception. Personally, I think it is a terrible breach of etiquette to force someone to do something that makes them uncomfortable. Everyone knows your Father loves you and is proud of you. You don't need to "prove" anything by having a dance. Just skip it.

Oh, and please don't follow the suggestions on slide shows or anything like that. I have been to MANY weddings and it seems pretty egomaniacal to have a slide show and I would NOT want to sit through one nor do I know anyone else who would want to either.

Answer 2

See if you can have a song dedicated to the two of you, and then dance together with other couples on the floor. That's what I am doing with my dad. He'd rather not us be the only couple on the dance floor, and I would still love to have a father-daughter dance, so we are compromising this way.

Congrats!!

Answer 3

Hon,I gave away all three of my daughters.There is no one in this big world that hates to dance anymore than I do But when my beautiful daughters Came down the isle My heart nearly beat out of my chest I was so proud.I can not even walk without a cane but I wouldn't have missed those three dances if I were in my wheelchair.Trust me I bet your Father feels the very same way.Good luck and congratulations.I will have 50 years with my wife new years eve.I hope you top that and are twice as happy as we are.Love I'm Jerry

Answer 4

Some of these people just don't listen...She said that her father doesn't like to dance why then would you give her advice as to how to make him dance...
Girl, just do a slide show of your life and family ....great times spent with your dad.... and I'm sure it will be just as touching.
I don't want to dance at my wedding either, so this is what I plan on doing instead!!! It's unqiue and touching enough to make you cry

Answer 5

I like the idea of having the song play softly in the background and maybe you saying something nice to your dad in front of everyone, like what he means to you and so on and maybe he could take the mic and do the same. OR you could have the dance be with your mom and dad-that way he'll only have to dance to half a song. :) Good luck!

Answer 6

I am one of those dad's too. Make sure the song is short, and something he likes. Talk to him about it first. No surprises. I hate to dance, but I would love a dance with my daughter at her wedding.

Answer 7

I'm a father, don't like to dance either. But for this occasion I'd do it. I danced with my mother at my wedding.

Answer 8

Play his favorite song or one he associates with good times and insist on the dance. If he refuses still to dance, then either just stand by him or spend the time introducing him to those he may not know or not know well that you invited.

Answer 9

You could always take out the father/daughter dance altogether.

Answer 10

Maybe you could have a father/daughter song playing softly as background music and spend a few minutes of the song telling everyone how much he means to you. You might let him know this ahead of time or surprise him with it when you do it. Or maybe you could spend the time while it is playing quietly talking to him, telling him how much he means to you. But definitely make it obvious to all who are there that this is your dad. Good luck with whatever you choose, and I know he appreciates the thought of accomodating his dislike in such a traditional part of the reception.