If given a choice in your opinion should engagement and wedding bands be new or heirlooms?

Answer 1

it all depends on what your engagement ring looks like. i think its very sweet to wear an heirloom though.

Answer 2

That's an entirely personal choice.

In my case, my wedding ring is an heirloom (my mother's) and my engagement ring was brand new, so I've got one of each. That's just how things worked out. I love both rings and wouldn't trade either for anything.

If you've got heirlooms available and you like them, then that's great. You save money and have something with real sentimental value. On the other hand, if you don't have them available or don't care for what heirlooms you have, then for goodness' sake get a new ring or have the old stones reset in a style of band you like better.

This is a case where there is no 'better' or 'should'; there's what works for each couple.

Answer 3

I think there are pros and cons to both. I like the idea of a family heirloom and all its history, but I also like the fact that my ring is mine alone, never having been worn by any other. This ring was created just for me, and from every ring in the world, my fiance selected this particular one. I'd be happy either way, I guess, as long as the prior owned of the heirloom ring had a happy marriage. If they didn't, I wouldn't want the ring no matter what.

Answer 4

Both have their appeal. Heirlooms should be simple and classy so people with diverse personalities can pull them off. Ideally, either my engagement ring or wedding ring would be an heirloom, but one would be new. I would like the opportunity to express that comes with a new ring.

Answer 5

I think heirloom bands can be a great idea, and sometimes a bad idea.

The sentiment is great but I know all the "heirloom" bands in my family would be way too flashy and no my taste at all so I'm getting new.

Answer 6

If you have an heirloom set from a happy, long-lasting marriage, then I would prefer those.

However, if your grandparents' marriage was frought with spousal abuse and alcoholism... I don't care how nice the set was, I wouldn't want to use those bands. Or, your divorced parents rings either. Wedding bands are highly symbolic items after all. I might wear one of these rings on my right hand, but I would not want to exchange these as a token of my love and faithfulness.

Answer 7

Personally, I would like either one. I love heirlooms. I have several pieces of grandma and granddaddy's things in my home. My mother has her moms wedding set and also has a set my dad bought her when they got married. She regularly wears both. If she is a sentimental person, go with the heirloom.

Answer 8

I wear an heirloom ring. It was given to me by my grandmother before she passed. My husband had the setting modified to fit a new princess cut solitaire, so the ring is both old and new. It's very comforting to me that I am wearing a ring that my grandmother loved so much and has a strong 50 year marriage attached to it. I think it brings me luck. Unions don't generally last that long nowadays.

Answer 9

i think it depends on the person. i always thought that i wanted to buy a new wedding set, but then when i was helping pack my mother's things during a move, i came across this gorgeous antique wedding set that belonged to my great aunt, and i absolutely fell in love with it. the only thing was that the diamond on the engagement ring was very tiny (my fiance's words, not mine), so my fiance had a bigger diamond put on, and i absolutely adore it. i know that i got lucky with finding an heirloom that i love, i'm so glad i was in the right place at the right time to find it.

Answer 10

It depends on the couple. Some people would appreciate the sentimental value of an heirloom, and others would want to have their very won little ring.

Answer 11

I think heirlooms are especially meaningful. Something previously owned passed on to you is saying that you mean that much to them. Lots of people take heirlooms (either diamond or the setting) and use it to create something new. So you actually have something old with something new and more modern.