2007-06-14 01:31:32 · 24 answers · asked by twisty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I didn't tell him about it, his father did. We are now divorced and this woman come up to my son and got smart with him first. If she contacts him again I'm filing charges against her.
2007-06-14 02:36:19 · update #1
I didn't tell him about it, his father did. We are now divorced and this woman came in contact with my son through the internet and got smart with him first. If she contacts him again I'm filing charges against her.
2007-06-14 02:39:46 · update #2
sorry about that!
2007-06-14 02:57:33 · update #3
Hell no. Buy him something nice
2007-06-14 01:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by hollybear 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Does your son know that your husband had an affair with this woman? I mean, what you are teaching your son is to be disrespectful to adults that he doesn't like when you want him to be respectful of all adults whether he likes them or not. Have you ever been in public and had some punk kid smart-off to you and all you could think is that you are the adult and should be respected by those that are younger.
Your son is going to be that punk kid if you continue to teach him that it is OK to be disrespectful to adults that he finds he doesn't like. Have fun on all those trips to pick up your son from Saturday detention in High School.
2007-06-14 08:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by Joey 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't give many details, but I would say, no, don't punish him. However, you could explain to him that disrespect doesn't solve anything, that it just makes other people angry. Also, explain that if he had anything to communicate to this adult, by saying it in a quiet, logical way he may have gotten his message across. By using disrespectful language, all the "adult" learned was that he felt anger towards her.
2007-06-14 08:35:38 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't punish him, just have a good talk with him. Surely you can understand how he must be feeling about his father & the other woman. Let him express his feelings about the whole situation.
2007-06-14 08:37:50 · answer #4 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a toughy. My instinct says NO!! He's expressing himself probably due to his own frustration stemming from the lack of respect that he feels. He may also be protecting you and feels that he standing up for you in some way. He probably feels bad enough. You could talk to him, in general, about how to speak to adults but I wouldn't specifally pinpoint this one situation.
2007-06-14 08:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what i have always taught my 2 girls is that in order to respect someone, they have to respect you. which this person did not. she disrespected the entire "family" and his father disrespected him because he did not think what would happen to his family. so, my answer is no, you should not punish your son. you should punish your husband for having this person even around you, and your son.
SHAME ON HIM!
2007-06-14 09:12:12 · answer #6 · answered by lidakamo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to say that is one hard question. Part of me says no ~ she's a b*&ch that shouldn't get respect, but part of me says yes ~ because kids need to be respectful. Does the kid even know about her and the affair? I guess I'd want to know that first.
2007-06-14 08:37:57 · answer #7 · answered by FireBug 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but you SHOULD let him know that disrespect to ANYONE is really bad. Under these circumstances it would be very difficult to be polite, but displeasure can be shown in a multitude of ways other than disrespect.
2007-06-14 08:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell no he should not be punished. He has a right to vent his feelings. Your husband and this woman do not deserve respect for what they did. They sure were not thinking about you and your son when they hooked up.
2007-06-14 08:39:09 · answer #9 · answered by aintlifegrand 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
not many adults would be respectful to another adult that broke up a family...your son is just a kid and is no doubt hurting...dont expect adult behavoir from him at a time like this...just tell him you understand where its coming from but dont like to see that sort of behavoir from him....whatever you do dont compare him to his dad in this situation...thats probably who he's more mad at and just lashed out at the lady cause he feels he cant do it towards his dad....you and dad both need to talk to son and sort it out....good luck.
2007-06-14 08:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by coolred38 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why should your child know this person and of the fathers affair ? some things children just shouldn't know and this is one of them how did your child find out ? shame on who ever Blabbed about this to the child... its hard enough being a teenager without knowing about parents affairs !!
2007-06-14 08:36:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋